I know that I am less tolerant because I am sick right now. I know that sometimes I over react. But I can't fight back the tears right now.

We're in a difficult situation right now. We're both looking for work, money is tight. Really tight. So, in the midst of all of the BS over sick children this week, BM makes an offer to BF ... she'll pay our next week of childcare ($250) if he'll come and clean her apartment (two bedroom, two bath). BF didn't say yes right away, he told me that he was tired of cleaning up after her for all of those years and didn't relish the idea of having to do it again, but he didn't feel he could pass up the idea of basically earning $250 in one day! Then I found out that she specifically said that it had to be just him. He thought it was because she was too embarrassed about the condition of her apartment, but this morning she said she didn't feel comfortable with my being at her place and going through her personal things. THAT is what set me off. She's fine with leaving me at her apartment to watch her sons while she goes to a school function that she doesn't think I should attend! She didn't have any issues with my going through her house and packing up items she might want before it went up for sheriff's sale! And it was fine when we took care of her cat while she was away having weight loss surgery and spent our time and supplies trying to get the cat pee smell out of the boys room. And I also seem to be good enough to carry her friggin TRASH out when we go visit (so that she doesn't have to bundle the boys up to walk down to the dumpster!)

And BF doesn't see that it's a control thing. That it has to do with her calling the shots on our time together. We could have had her place done TODAY, if we'd worked on it together, and enjoyed it, but now BF is going to have to go back over again tomorrow because I am not to be there. Not even to sit on the sofa and talk with him while he works.

I wouldn't have an issue if it weren't for the fact that it's never been an issue before! Is it me? Am I crazy? Or is this a way to continue to control him?

Thanks again to ST for having a GREAT place to VENT!!!!