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SS19 felt weird.....

anothermom's picture

During, nap time, I went to the garage and found SS in there. I asked him for help with a box. He then asked if I or his father could drop him off at OSDs house. I said of course! He told me the kids I watch are all cute but he had no idea how much stuff we did and that he felt weird being here. I told him see why I didn't want you in the front room! He said yes, he was sorry and his sister said he could spend a couple days at her house.
Maybe, I should have opened my mouth sooner.
SO, and I had a talk. He just feels bad for not raising his kids the right way. He admits to being too young and dumb. What can he do now? Honestly, I don't know! The kid is just to feral! He has some good but....
SO has pushed the job search. He said, he will help him get a car.
I called my landlord and told him I would sign a lease on Monday. Then, I thought do I use it as a trump card??? Do, I have to go through a long process to get him out? I do enjoy my SO I just don't want his kids spending the night. I feel awful saying that

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hereiam's picture

Don't feel awful about not wanting a 19 year old bum sleeping on your couch.

All your SO can do now is reiterate to his son how important it is for him to get a job and be a contributing member of society. He can help him, like with the car and job search, but coddling or enabling him is not going to do him any good. Feeling sorry for him or feeling guilty about the past does NO ONE any good.