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Emancipated Pumpkinhead (OSS stb 19) Has a Seasonal Job at an Outlet Mall In the BM's Hometown--Possible UN-emancipation Looming

thinkthrice's picture

Last year at this time, Pumpkinhead emancipated himself by "secretly" moving out of the Girhippo (BM)household and into his paternal Uncle's house which is about almost an hour away from the Gir's house.

Since then he's:

1. been thrown out of other relative's houses for too much chooming
2. enrolled in community college near the Uncle's house but dropped out 3 mos later
3. got his driver's license revoked
4. been going on all the Gir's family vacations (Outerbanks, Maine, etc)
5. had a part time job making smoothies on a food truck owned by one of the BM's relatives (said food truck operates mostly near Uncle's place as it closer to the "big city.")

And now it seems he's taken on a part time job at a seasonal toy and gaming store about 7 minutes away from the Gir's house.

I smell an "un-emancipation" event coming on. . . I guess his dreams of being a famous rock star aren't panning out and has probably been eating his Uncle and Uncle's partner out of house and home!!

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thinkthrice's picture

That is my concern since CS goes to 21 in this state. Pumpkinhead moved out when he turned 18 (secretly). The Gir had no anticipation of Chef ever knowing this "arrangment" and fully expected to continue to collect CS for him whilst he was out of her household until he turned 21.

That was the plan until my faux FB account came to the rescue! It DOES pay to keep tabs on PASed out skids, despite what you hear from some posters.

Snowflake's picture

In your situation I completely agree that it is a good thing that you do keep tabs on them.

Jsmom's picture

Crap like this is exactly why I monitor my SD19's twitter account...Found out last week she adopted a dog in her dorm at college. That damn thing is not coming here when she flunks out.

thinkthrice's picture

All of our finances are separate and have been. I'm not married to him (thank GOD) and he pays money to a separate account in my name for room and board. It is FINALLY equivalent to what he was paying in CS in the early years (after 11 years he's finally giving ME what he gave HER for the first 6/7 years) His initial contribution was ZERO and then probably 10% of the expenses until now.

I have a separate bill paying acct and another acct with the home equity money in it.

He has an acct that he uses for his coffee, lunches and sundries--his CS comes directly out of his pay each week.

I told him if he wants to go on nice vacations, then he has to pony up the dough. He has become accustomed to nice vacays and is now in the right mindset. He used to associate overpaying his CS with "doing the right thing." Now that he sees his CS is not being used for anything worthwhile (tutoring last two remaining skids, etc but instead used for the Gir's fancy vacay home) he now has the right attitude.

thinkthrice's picture

yep. I raised my kids in the 80s and 90s with ZERO CS and yet they managed to be successful adults!!

Games BM played (as did the Girhippo):

1. Blocked DH to school records (check)
2. Secretly moved OSS out of the house (check)
3. Photoshopped wage statement for CS hearing
4. Provided phoney child care receipts from friends and Battleaxe Galactica (Gir's BM) (check)
5. Even the Gir's attorney told her that she was pushing the envelope with all the extracurriculars and expenses from such.

I have no doubt the Gir will continue her tricks. Looks pretty solid that she will try to extend CS for Dominatrix (SD stb 17) as long as humanly possible by having her complete six years of High School

thinkthrice's picture

Well there is no emancipation paperwork. The CO states that moving out of the BM's house (and not into mine) is an emancipation event. Therefore they stopped CS for him after the downward mod went through due to proof he moved out.

I don't trust Pro-GUBM NYS any farther than I can throw it!!

thinkthrice's picture

The only solution to this would be to get skids off of DH's insurance and on to hers. Usually a concession of increased CS has to be made.

It was worth it with all the games the Girhippo would play when the skids (and she--she stalled the divorce for as long as possible to remain on Chef's insurance) were on his insurance.

thinkthrice's picture

Very familiar indeed. The Girhippo used the CO basically as toilet paper, whereas she expected Chef to conversely follow it to the letter.

Chef was never notified about medical events (until I saw it after the fact on the portal), nor church, school or extra curricular events.

I would contact the school to get the reports coming to Chef and the Gir would put a stop to it with some phoney baloney lie. She would be HIGHLY uncooperative. Unfortunately one of the football coaches was the Gir's BFF and when she found out who was calling for the schedule, she screamed at me, told me I would HAVE to get the schedule from the BM; when I told her that we couldn't get it from the Gir (her BFF), she very audibly hung up on me. I think she actually threw down her cell phone! She was a flaming shrew BM just like the Gir.

I remember making copies of all my bios report cards, school paperwork, schedules, etc. and sending them to my two ex-husbands like clockwork.

thinkthrice's picture

I think we had the same BM. BTW she also drained all the college funds ala "Medusa" the second they broke up.

thinkthrice's picture

Both Chef AND the Girhippo have NO idea how to handle money!!! The ONLY reason why there were college funds to begin with was that Chef got a workers comp settlement!!

thinkthrice's picture

That's just the thing:

1. He's not employed full time (self supporting)
2. He would NEVER make it in the military
3. As far as parental control is concerned, he may have chaffed a bit but he's a BMbot to the core.
4. I couldn't think of anyone who would want to marry him (guy or gal) as a sidenote, he tends toward alternate lifestyle.

The only thing that weighed in Chef's favour to get Pumpkinhead off of CS was that he moved out and that the Girhippo clearly had NO INTENTION OF INFORMING CHEF.

It basically came out in the wash that she agreed to let Pumpkinhead "spread his wings" (although he is the least egregious of all three, I'm sure StepDaddyBigBucks had his fill as well and was anxious for him to leave) and of course was NEVER going to inform Chef.

All three skids are completely PASed out and there is zero communication between parties for the last almost six years now. She completely expected to do whatever she wanted under the radar and continue to get paid CS for him until he turned 21 at the very least.

The CO which was based on the Memorandum of Understanding that they both signed,which I hear isn't worth it's weight in paper legally, which stated moving out the the custodial house, and not into the NCP's house, is an act of emancipation.

I could easily see the Girhippo go back to court to get another two years and one month's (exactly) CS for him.