Sometimes DH gets it sometimes or it seems. The other evening DH went over to his son’s place to help him move some things in. Skid20 just moved in with his barley legal girlfriend in a house that her parents own, which they have decided to rent to their 2 daughters and their shack up BFs. I really don’t have any issue with GF besides her taste in men. She is nice but young and not very mature yet.

Well anyways DH met her parents for the first time and told me they seemed very nice and we should have them over for a BBQ. I would not mind meeting her parents but that means having Skid and his GF over for a bbq. Have no problem having GF over for a bbq but skid is another story.

I refuse to host a dinner party for someone who is rude to me and disrespectful me especially in my own home. I told DH that before and again last month. He told me he understood.

So when he brought up the idea I just let it past because maybe it is all talk and he will just forget about it or remember my feelings.

Tonight we are out for a casual dinner and he suggests that we have GF’s parents over for a bbq next weekend. Last thing I want is an argument in restaurant over the busy dinner rush. All I said is “I am not sure” and obviously I did not look over joyed at the thought.

A few moments of silence, and he says “I suppose you are right”. And then silence again. So I ask “Right about what?”. He said that it is way too soon to play happy family and there are still issues to work out. I told him he was right . It was nice that he got it, and came to remember it, did not ask me to turn the other cheek etc.

However dinner was very quiet after that, the car ride home was quiet and he was testy once we arrived home. I do understand that things may not be the way he wants, that we are not “one big happy family”. However he set the standard on that by walking on eggs shells with his own kid, letting his spawn get away with treating everyone like shit without any repercussions from him as a father. Yet I get the cold shoulder. I give him credit for recognizing the situation but to punish me with the silent treatment afterwards I do not like or understand.