I was in high school and met a young man who stole my heart from the second I saw him. We became best friends, had a brief post-graduation romance, split up, reunited five years later and became best friends for the rest of our adult lives. That's the basic nutshell!

Two years after we broke up, he married the Harlot of our high school. I HATED that -- that --- .... "very sexually obsessed female," for lack of a better word. I wanted to break their wedding up. But I wanted him to be happy, and it seemed she was his happiness. I knew about all of her horrible secrets and her reputation dating all the way back to junior high. Let's just say I wasn't allowed to be around girls like that. And I also knew he'd never willingly marry someone with that kind of history -- he never knew about it until several years later when I actually DID finally tell him. Anyway -- their marriage was everything you SHOULD NEVER DO in any semblance of a marriage. SHE wanted it to be "open." SHE was into gay/lesbian play. SHE was the antithesis to any form of Christianity, and she dragged him right down with her.

When C and I met, he was a devout Catholic. He was a virgin (until our little romance...hee hee!). He was the sweetest gentleman on the planet. He was polar opposite of this Harlot (I think that is what I'll call her on here - Harlot. VERY fitting!!). But one night he ran into her (while I was getting out of my first, very abusive marriage and he had no way of finding me) and they made out. Seven WEEKS later, they were married. He had gone into the Army and was horribly lonely; he was her ticket out of MS. So off they went, and not even seven years into their marriage, she wanted to "play" with other people. So they did. Let your imaginations run as wild as you want with it -- they did it. It was BAD!!

Meanwhile, I had met who would be the soulmate of my life. We called each other Twin Souls because we were so much into each other. He was my Danny Jay. I split MS to move to the Northwest for him and he was worth everything I ever gave up here. We had one beautiful child together.......and five days after her ninth birthday, my sweet Danny Jay died from pneumonia. C was with me on the phone or internet every single night for a year, making sure I didn't kill myself (oh, yeah -- that was a VERY DARK period in my life). Our friendship was the crux of my survival.

I ended up moving back home, and I took advantage of C and Harlot's little marital arrangement. He and I had a very active affair. The more time we spent, the more he realized he was in the WRONG relationship. But he was so brainwashed by what she'd put him through, he couldn't see what real marital happiness was. He was so dug in, and he would NOT leave her or the children. He took his vows seriously, even if she didn't. Well, they "closed" their marriage after a while, and I went on to date someone for a couple of years. Naturally, C and I remained best friends, and I had to hear all of the nightmares Harlot put him through. He tried to get them into counseling, but she only wanted to work on her own issues. In fact, at the last session, she kicked him out of the office and said she didn't want to work on their marriage.

In June 2013, C invited me to dinner and announced that Harlot had left him and their two kids for a bisexual. C was broken -- just broken. The kids were confused and devastated, and Harlot was as evil in separation and divorce as she was in marriage. But the kids never knew of their mother's deceit. The Harlot forced herself back into the house during the separation and said she wanted to live there with C and the kids, but they could be divorced. THIS WAS A HOLY HOT MESS NIGHTMARE!!!!

C refused. His lawyer got an emergency relief hearing and won custody of the kids and the house. Harlot was fuming furious and immediately started telling the kids HE was responsible for everything happening.

Now ------ take a minute and reread what I wrote. You tell me ---- who exactly was to blame??? That's right! Harlot!!! And if you need further convincing, she left behind a hand-written journal describing ALL of the affairs she had the past FIVE YEARS that C had no idea about, and she talked about how she basically wanted him dead!!!!! I'M NOT KIDDING!!! And here she was, telling their kids HE was to blame?? WHAT???!!

So to continue....

He and I started dating in June 2013, some six months after Harlot left. We were very discreet with our relationship because we didn't want to hurt his kids any more than they already were. Once the divorce was final, we then decided to marry. It was at that time we included his children in the plans. My child had already known we were serious. I hide NOTHING from my girl. We married in June 2014, and it has been HELL ever since when it comes to his daughter. His son? We had to work things out, but we have a good relationship. He can be a real jackass sometimes, but he's 18...what can you expect, right?? Lol!

But Harlot Jr is where I am and why I found this website.

...and to be continued because I have to take my child to get her driver's permit today. If there's any sunshine in my life, it's her....but I'll introduce you later.

I am so glad I found this forum. I look forward to hearing from you and being with you in your own journeys.

Until I can get away,
2tired2deal