Stalemate
So dh is not backing down and neither is puke so she is not coming for her visitation this weekend. Bm called dh last night to rub it in his face in her own passive aggressive way. What gets me is that bm made plans to babysit tonight so it makes me wonder if she wasn't behind this in some way. Just seems convenient to me.
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Oh yeah. Bm told dh that she
Oh yeah. Bm told dh that she didn't even think about saying anything to dh about getting puke a dog. But she won't keep the dog for a couple days so puke can come see dh. This is what I mean when I say passive aggressive. Now puke is no way without sin in this. She made dh the bad guy in this by saying he doesn't care about his kid. No sweetheart it's the opposite. You don't care about your dad. You just think he'll lie down and take it. Newsflash! He has had a glimpse of your true colors. Scary isn't it?
Oh I have been extra loving
Oh I have been extra loving and caring since the blow up. Reminding him that I support him and wil always here for him. Everything puke has not been.
There will be lots of positive reinforcement this weekend.
While I TOTALLY agree with
While I TOTALLY agree with him holding firm, why does he not want the dog to come over for the weekend?
5. The puppy is not
5. The puppy is not completely potty trained yet and still has accidents.
4. Puke does not do a good job of taking care of puppy (hence #5) so dh will have to take care of or make sure puke takes proper care of puppy.
3. Puppy will have to ride in car for four hours each way.
2. We live very close to the busiest street in town and our yard is not fenced in.
1. Dh was not conferred with when bm got puppy for puke even though he would be impacted.
I think dh is also tired of having his visitations held over his head when puke doesn't get her way.
Puke can thank her mother for
Puke can thank her mother for that.
Because it will not be just
Because it will not be just one weekend. BM's not suddenly going to want to take care of the dog during any of Puke's future time at her father's house. Soon BM will having the dog traveling back and forth, and there will be yet another tie between DH and BM for which they need to communicate and exchange money. And OP and her DH never wanted a dog!
The dog isn't a dog. It's a tactical weapon employed by BM for control and alienation. Putting their foot down now and drawing up a solid boundary will stop this in it's tracks.
Exactly! This is not the
Exactly! This is not the first weekend puke hasn't come because of dog. Last time dh told puke no dog and they would revisit that decision when it was older. 2 weeks is not older. Puke knew that the dog would not be coming this time and should have made other arrangements. Bm should be an adult and care for the dog for a couple days while puke is here. But instead controls the situation and keeps puke from coming.
Bm and dh meet in the middle.
Bm and dh meet in the middle. Of course bm has used the I can't afford the gas excuse a few times. The winter he hardly sees puke cuz there's either bad weather there or here. Then puke doesn't want to spend much more than a weekend here cuz all her friends are so far away and she refuses to make any here. It's a losing battle for dh. I see puke stop coming within the next few months. She barely comes once a month.
I don't think he should back
I don't think he should back trac now but if it was my kid and I only saw her once a month, I would just let the stupid dog come so I could see her. JMHO.
Puke comes when puke wants to
Puke comes when puke wants to or it benefits her. Don't think that this is all because dh said no. She has bold faced lied to get out of coming. Bm has pretty much turned puke against dh so puke manipulates dh to get what she wants from him in one breathe and then turns on him in the next breathe. His love for puke has not wavered once.
Had puke not said deplorable things to or tried to manipulate dh he probably would have given in. Puke has to be the one to see that this behavior is not acceptable.
Oh I get it. I was just
Oh I get it. I was just saying if it ws MY kid. I would not want Puke around either. lol
You make sacrifices for those
You make sacrifices for those who deserve it.
YUP!!!!! In my world it
YUP!!!!!
In my world it sounds like this "I don't do favors for assholes" but the sentiment is the same.
I will make sacrifices for those who deserve them, not those who hate me and actively campaign against me.