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OMG. give up, you crazy woman!

4ever's picture

My husband's ex posted a picture to Facebook yesterday with her, her daughter, her boyfriend's daughter and her boyfriend's daughter's stepsister.

The caption said 'To be a great stepmom you have to be a MOM!!! For some people that's just impossible for me it comes natural. Look at my gorgeous girls!!! Even my stepdaughter's stepsister calls me MOMMA!!" Her friends posted LOL comments and one said 'talking about the barren bitch who took your leftovers"?? and the ex replied 'yep is it that obvious?! LOL'

Yes, she was talking about me. I don't have children of my own so according to her that means I can't be a great stepmom. She's such a tool. I haven't thought about her for weeks but obviously she can't stop obsessing over me. Gross!

i blocked her on Facebook. it was a mutual friend (the mom of one of my stepdaughters friends) who texted a screenshot to me. I told her to please not to do that again i have that woman blocked for a reason. i might block her too why would she send that to me?

Also, she may be a mom but she's not a stepmom. She and her boyfriend hang out but they don't live together, she has no idea what its like to help raise another person's kid day to day. Also why post something like that? She has to take me down to build herself up? I've done nothing to deserve that I've always been good to her daughter and respectful to her. I just want to go back to living without her in my mind, starting immediately after i post this vent! thanks for listening.

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DaizyDuke's picture

well isn't that speeshul! Nice to see she's so full of herself. What a freaking tool.

4ever's picture

Yes i thought you had to be married to be a stepmom! If not married then at least live with the kid. Weirdly she gets along great with her boyfriend's exwife. Honestly i think it's because she's not threatened by her.

4ever's picture

THanks for saying that. Me not being able to have kids is very painful for me and on some level she must know that. TO make a public comment like that is so spiteful and mean! And for this "friend" to send it to me? She said "I thought you should know' but i think that was pointless too. People always suprise me.

4ever's picture

Oh I will ignore her. Just venting here because I know you guys understand. Obviously not going to mention this to my husband or anyone else. She care more about what people think of her then what she actually does as a mom or a person.

fakemommy's picture

If she were really that confident, she wouldn't feel the need to (try to) put you down. Hey BM! You're insecurity is showing!!

4ever's picture

I agree. I think she's insecure because my husband proposed to me six months after we met. She's been with this boyfriend for almost five years and nothing.

4ever's picture

That would creep me out too. I blocked her recently beacuse I finally got tired of her commenting on our family photos that my husband's family posts when we're on vacations together etc. I wish they'd unfriend her but they want to keep the peace. Guess thats where my husband got it! No one has the balls to just cut her off except me. I am connected to some parents at my stepdaughters school but now that her dad is handling everything i think i'll get rid of them too.

twopines's picture

Yes I would definitely delete the other parents from my FB. One of them is sending you ridiculous stuff BM posts. You have no need for that foolishness.

4ever's picture

I just did! I'm slowly untangling myself from all of it. Its kindof sad because I only make those friends because I wanted to be helpful and connected in my stepdaughters life.

notsobad's picture

You nailed it on the head when you said she has to bring others down to build herself up.
Her insecurities are out there for everyone to see.

And I don't agree about having to be married to be called stepmom, live together and be in a commited relationship, yes!

ChiefGrownup's picture

Hideous. What outrageously bad taste people she has for friends.

Yeah, try living with all those little girls, 4ever's bm, see how their attitude toward you changes. I'd pay money to see her fending off a pack of stepdaughters she actually lives with.

For a fact our bm is jealous of our courtship story. It's one of the few stories directly about me that has traveled from BM's house to ours. BM apparently kvetches to sd16 that it took dh only 8 months to propose and we were married within the year. SD was 13 at the wedding so it's likely this kvetching has gone on since the beginning. Too bad, so sad, bm. DH has already had a million times more happiness in these 2 1/2 years than he ever had in something like 14 years with you! And that is including the stephell so that is saying a lot! Hahaha!

Dh wanted to propose on our first date but held himself back so I wouldn't think he was cuckoo. Must have been hard for bm to keep up her act for the 2 or more (I'm not sure, don't care) years it took her to snooker him into thinking it might be a good idea.

So yeah, the 6 month thing could very well be a burr under saddle while 5 years later she's still trying to learn the lyrics to that Beyonce song.

Jsmom's picture

Delete anyone that is friends with BM. BM's learn things about our lives this way when they comment on our posts, they can see it. I have deleted family as well.

nunya1983's picture

Probably she thought she was being helpful, letting you know your being "made fun of" if she doesn't get it that you don't want to see that crap, i'd block her. No reason to send that negative crap to you. Stay strong 4ever