SD 10 has a security blanket
My SD has this thing she calls a "silkie" it is a 12 x 12 cloth with a stuffed animal head. I told her father I don't want one of those in our house because it's filthy and it's time for her to get over it. Sounds cold I know but a cpl months back her mom dropped her off at 6:30 AM and I was sleeping on the couch . Out of the corner of my eye I see her sucking her thumb and rubbing this "silkie" in her nose and all over her face. After I took her to school I came home to find it, she hides them now. I found the filthiest most disgusting "silkie" I lost it!!! I took a picture of it and when her mom came after school I showed her the close up of this biohazard. She couldn't even tell what this brown thing was, it was pink at some point. I told her mom this came from her house and I would not allow this in my home anymore especially considering SD had ringworm for 4 MONTHS!!!!! I am disgusted and cannot understand why now she thinks I had no place to take this from her!! Bio mom is a counselor for kids , shouldn't she perhaps do a little counseling of her own child???
Ewwwww gross. In your best
Ewwwww gross.
In your best Major Payne impersonation tell bm to "pop your titty out her mouth and let the girl grow up".
OMG!!!! My SD17 has a silkie
OMG!!!! My SD17 has a silkie too!! That's exactly what she calls it! At least she keeps it under her pillow and no one ever sees it.
SD12 on the other hand has this oral fixation thing. She chews on EVERYTHING and sucks her thumb nonstop. I put masking tape on her thumbs last time she was at my house.
How old is your SD? If she is an older child, I tell her the silkie stays in her bed and that's THAT.
And yes......WASH it. Hot water with bleach
Washing it is really your
Washing it is really your only option as telling her to get over wanting it would fall in lines with something that the people that made the child get to determine the timeline on.
If I was the mom of the child I would be somewhat offended that you are telling me what you are going to allow my child to bring over, something that is clearly a "security blanket" none the less. It's not like she is asking to bring her pet with her or something crazy.
I will say that we had the
I will say that we had the opposite problem. When my SD was 10 or so, she had a blanket that she loved and brought between houses. Her stepfather decided she was "too old" and threw it out. DH was PISSED (and rightly so) that stepdad crossed that line. Was SD irreparably harmed? Of course not. But it's interesting that THIS was the child who eventually chose to live with us, and that THIS is the child who has no use for her "stepfather" and usually calls him "my mom's husband".
Sorry, I also think you overstepped here, and that you're setting yourself up for later conflict as the girl gets older.
I somewhat agree with this
I somewhat agree with this person. It can come over is BM washes it first. Those are germs you don't need in your house or on your SD. I've worked at children's hospital for 27 years, and that is disgusting to touch. The issue here is germs.
Oh FFS...wash it and try to
Oh FFS...wash it and try to calm down. Losing it over something like this is going to make you age quicker than you want.
Personally i think you are
Personally i think you are being harsh.
There was no need to involve BM. I would have just scooped it up and washed it and continue to do so everytime she visited.
eventually the message will sink in and she will eiher keep it hidden in her room or have it washed before she comes over.
Time for a Silkie inferno.
Time for a Silkie inferno. Burn them. Turn them into a smores party and put the silkie population out of their own and your misery. SD-10 can participate in the smores party or stand there and cry.
Either way, torch them up.
I still have my blanket from
I still have my blanket from when i was a kid. I have to wash it very gently. I think it's ok, im not too screwed up.lol
Both of my kids have their
Both of my kids have their comfort items - at 21 & 23. #1's is a little matted, but clean. #2's is well loved - missing an eye, has stitches in several places, missing a lot of fur. But Penny dog has seen her through a lot of heartbreaks. God help the person who tries to make fun of her or take it away.
Seriously - throw the darn thing in the wash if it bothers you this much. Or tell Dad to. He knows how to work a washer, right?