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Update on Step daughter and his ex

bluerhino@1957's picture

Well since I last posted things have not changed much, but I have spoken with a lawyer about where I stand if I do decide to file for divorce and also talk to another lawyer about filing charges on my SD . Needless to say she want have a job at the bank she has worked at for almost 15 years, plus the invasion of privacy, plus a few more charges. The lawyer I spoke with about filing for a divorce said that by the time we are finished that my H may be buying his underwear for me. Due to the fact that I have been out so much money since we were married to pay off credit card debts that his ex left for him to pay off. I have never been one for credit cards; first because if you can't afford to pay for it, unless it is a necessary then you don't need it. My daughters use to call me the biggest tight wad , but at the time they did not understand that I was paying a house payment, car payment, etc. and raising them by myself. So now that they both have their own families they understand.
The lawyer I spoke with about the charges on my SD is getting all the paper work from LifeLock so I can file the charges. I also informed him that she had tried to get a cell phone for her mother using my information and thats another charge. The divorce lawyer said that my H should also file charges on his daughter. Boy would that really hurt since her and her husband just built a new 4 bedroom house that they didn't need. I have never wanted anything from her except to be respected and to try and have some sort of relationship so things would be so hard for all of the family. But she choose not to. Like I told the lawyer 20 years of marriage is a lot to let go of , but I should not have to put up with any of this when my H will not do or say anything to his daughter or his ex. The lawyer ask me if I thought my H would go to counseling and I told him that he probably wouldn't. He said that if he decided not to go that my H really didn't care what happens anyway. So I'm in the process of getting charges filed on my SD and his ex, plus talking to a divorce lawyer. Please pray for me.

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Confused.com's picture

That's fantastic news, way to go....stepmum power!! Well done, you should be proud of yourself for standing up for yourself.

RESPECT!!! Smile

robin333's picture

You are a woman of action! So sorry you are going through this but you deserve much better. Glad you are protecting yourself.

notsobad's picture

You've absolutely made the right moves.

If she were a stranger there would be no question of pressing charges, no dilemma or drama.

Whatever happens to her is all her doing, not yours. Personally, I would like to see her in jail.

If your husband can not see that then yes, he needs to go and you need to be done with this marriage. He may surprise you, once he realizes exactly what she's done and the laws she broken maybe he'll come around. I wouldn't hold my breath, but maybe?

WTF...REALLY's picture

Your doing the right thing. Breaking the law should apply to everyone, no matter who they are or who they are related to.