CS when child is at both homes equal time
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I have a 7 year old SS and his dad and I have him 15-17 day's a month and his BM has him about the same amount of time or a day or two less. We pay her full child support, half of all medical bills, have paid for half of all birthday parties, bought cleats, helmets, etc for sports. I am all for child support if the BD doesn't have the child as much but we actually have him equal if not more. And she claims him every year on taxes. Does this seem fair to you all? I don't want to be the bad person but why do we pay child support why doesn't she if we have him the same amount of time??
You pay CS, PLUS half of
You pay CS, PLUS half of things? That doesn't seem right even if he wasn't with you half of the time. CS is supposed to cover all expenses.
When we had half custody (week on/week off), there was no CS exchanged, and we worked out paying each other half of what was spent on anything other than regular living expenses. CS on top of that would have been unfair.
That's what i am saying. I am
That's what i am saying. I am in no way trying to take away cs if we didn't have him all the time but we have him more actually than she does and pay for half of almost everything and she still asks for more. The worse part is my husband won't stand up to her so really my issue i guess is with him. It's obvious she is unfair and manipulative and is now threatening to move with SS since i brought up taking away child support.
You need to check your state
You need to check your state laws. Some take into account how much time the child spends with each parent and some are strictly a percentage of income. Usually, if there is an income disparity, the parent making more money is going to pay some child support, even if custody is 50/50.
Check the website of your court and you should be able to find the info. Often there is a worksheet you can fill out to find out exactly what child support should be.
I only get $130 per month as
I only get $130 per month as calculated when we first split. I totally wish they auto adjusted it based on income. I don't go back to court for more because I want to have a good relationship with him. Finally we are in a good spot. We are 75/25
My Dh however agreed with BM (50/50) not do child support. He now pays medical tho. And now, she makes 3x as much as Dh so even if she were to ask for it, good luck BM cuz she would have to pay his ass a pretty penny.
But no I don't agree. Go to court and work it out. Be honest and have him tell her you can't keep up with the costs and all expenses need to come from the support given to her.
Go to court. Please, go to
Go to court. Please, go to court. This will never even out for men if no men go after what is appropriate. Where I am, there are tables based on income and if it's 50/50, whoever owes more pays only the difference. Do it for yourselves and for the rest of us too!
I had to read that twice
I had to read that twice because I could have written it myself. We've had SD 15-17 nights per month but the CO states we only get her Wednesday night and EOW. My DH also makes the same amount of money but now has me and my son living here as well, which has increased expenses and BM makes more. I read her financial disclosure and almost shit a brick when she had the nerve to put down that she pays $500 a month cash in food when she gets food stanps and her idea of cooking is limited to "follow instructions on back of bag/box or place order at next window."
We've been doing the same thing, documenting everything over the last six months and have BM agreeing to 50/50 until she told DH that she wouldn't agree to it in court because she wants to keep getting her government benefits and CS. Unfortunately, she's not about what's best for SD, it's all about what's best for her and her feelings, insecurities, etc. DH called her selfish and greedy last week and she told him she would take him back to court for more child support, which is laughable given the circumstances. She has no idea that DH filed two months ago and that there's a court date set for next month to modify placement, CS and three counts of contempt. She's going to shit a brick when she gets served in a few weeks.
Dh and i have skids more than
Dh and i have skids more than half the time and he pays full cs. Ive brought the issue up and we barely get by. Dh told bm things need to be adjusted and bm said over her dead body and shed find other arrangements for her kids if dh cant afford to spend time with kids. Dh cowards down and let's bm get her way. I now stash my own child support and wife support for myself if hes gonna be a coward. He can figure out how to pay the bills.
I don't know why he cowers
I don't know why he cowers down because visitation has NOTHING to do with child support. he could be $50k in arrears and still see his kids. and by the way ladies, your dh's need to be more afraid of YOU than standing up to bm.
The rules are different in
The rules are different in every state. Here CS and visitation cases aren't even heard in the same court rooms.
Does she have an income that
Does she have an income that is equal to your husband's?
At least. Pretty sure she
At least. Pretty sure she makes more!
Yes she makes just as much or
Yes she makes just as much or more since she doesnt have insurance held out or retirement or any extra holdings
What are you saying?
What are you saying?
Bm makes the same amount of
Bm makes the same amount of money since she doesnt have to pay for medical or anything.
In our case BM refuses to
In our case BM refuses to alter the placement schedule and she told DH it's because she doesn't want to give up CS and gvt benefits, even though she has no bills since Daddy pays for everything. We've had SD6 13-19 nights per month even though the CO says DH gets 6 but he's forced to continue paying until court, which ended up being 3 1/2 months from the time that we filed! It's absurd the way the system works.
Does your dh follow the co or
Does your dh follow the co or does he just want the kids as much as he can. Bm i deal with wont give up cs but doesn't want her boys as much as co says. Plus she works and doesnt care were they are at during the night.
Same situation here. We've
Same situation here. We've been documenting not only when SD is with us but also when BM pawns her off on others. She basically uses the CO as a means to punish DH for hurting her fragile ego. Point out one of her many shortcomings and you won't see SD for a week.
Unfortunately some Judges are
Unfortunately some Judges are focused on equalizing the child's standard of living in both of their blended family homes. The only effective way to address this IMHO is to document, document, document and then smack BM with the facts in court.
Good luck.