Family problems & progress
It was a very interesting weekend, to say the least.
My step daughter and her husband flew home late Sunday afternoon after declining an offer of lunch with my husband and I. She probably was still angry about the blow up on Friday night. I did hear that she had lunch at her youngest sister's house. The other sister and her family was there too. My husband and I were not worth an invitation. I feel these girls are now showing their true colors and excluding their Father.
I spoke to my son because he behaved very badly on Friday. I asked him to apologize to his step sister. At first he refused. He thought she deserved to be told off. I reminded him that he was impolite and insulted a guest In our home. Eventually, he did send her an apology by email on which he copied me. There has been no response. No graciousness even to acknowledge it. I told my husband this. He got angry again on Tuesday. He demanded to see the email, not believing that my son would apologize. I showed it to him. He had the nerve to tell me my son deliberately spelt his daughters name wrong. "Of course, she didn't get the email so she could not respond." He accused my son of deliberately misspelling her name! It was a low blow to protect his favorite child again.
My husband has been in a better frame of mind since yesterday and we have been out house hunting. We found three lovely condos with beautiful facilities for children and grandchildren when they visit. My husband still wants two bedrooms only. He is adamant about this. He wants to close a sale with a realtor tomorrow but it will be for the two bedroom unit. 
If it is to be two bedrooms, so be it. It is a pity the children can't all be friends. Things were fine until my step daughter showed up. Now it is a wait and see game as to whether the other step girls still interact with me and my family. The eldest step daughter has already declined an invitation yesterday to spend the 4th with us. Rather choosing to spend time with her husband's family. She said they already had plans but I doubt it's true. The youngest also declined, with no reason given. Of course the middle step child is out of state and won't make the effort to visit this weekend.
My children and their families are all coming over for a cook out. At least my husband will see how a real family behaves. I am so excited over this! 
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He has already found his own
He has already found his own place
He did not need to pay rent
He did not need to pay rent for the three months he lived with us. My husband wanted him to save all his spare cash so my son could get this own apartment. This was extremely kind and allowed my son to find his feet. He is getting divorced, you might want to know, and moved out of the apartment he shared with his wife.
By being a real loser to the
By being a real loser to the woman who paid for the free place for son, Jilly and the husband to live at. He was not raised right.
Your husband didn't own the
Your husband didn't own the house, si it wasn't up to him to make that call. Your son should have called your SD and asked her if he could move into HER HOUSE. He should have also asked her how much she would charge him to live there.
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This^^^ this^^^ this-ity-this
I understand the spelling of
I understand the spelling of addresses. My husband said it was deliberate and he is wrong.
My son now knows that his step sister owns the house. My husband told him on Sunday. He does not otherwise discuss his business with my children.
I am buying the food. My children can bring sides or dessert if they want to.
His children don't owe me money, and I don't think they do. Why would they?
LOLOLOL How can someone be a
LOLOLOL
How can someone be a guest in the home that they own???? :?
The spelling "mistake"on the email is hilarious. Clearly you and your son think your husband and his kids are idiots.
Exactly my first thought!
Exactly my first thought!
My step daughter may own this
My step daughter may own this house, but she does not live here. She was a guest or a visitor and my son was rude. Is that clearer for you?
Manners by WTF.....(cue
Manners by WTF.....(cue elevator music)
When living for free in a home OWNED by SD, always understand that YOU are the guest in her home and as the guest, you need to be very kind and gracious to the home owner. A thank you note, a gift from both free loaders (jilly and son) is always a welcomed idea.
A hand written note at this point from you apologizing for YOUR rude behavior is what a decent person would do. Let us know if you need help writing it.
And that concludes todays Manners by WTF. End music.
OOOH! OOOH! (Waves hand
OOOH! OOOH! (Waves hand frantically). I have a manners question!!!
What is the proper response when someone has purchased 10 gifts for my family members for no real reason, but they are NOT GIFT WRAPPED?????
Punch 'em in the face, right? Or sick my son on them??
(cue elevator music) When
(cue elevator music)
When receiving lovely gifts from a thoughtful woman, always go for the face punch. That was the mistake the OP made. She did the latter. You always save your pit bull son for Christmas. When SD gives out Xmas gifts to OP and her family, the you bust out your pit bull son.
end music.
The More You Know
The More You Know (rainbow)
You are killing me today. I actually have a broken rib right now and I am in serious pain from laughing.
Excellent manners lesson WTF.
Excellent manners lesson WTF. Excellent!
Thank you thank you. I was
Thank you thank you. I was channeling Dear Abby.
She's the owner. You and
She's the owner. You and your son are the guests.
After the party insanity at
After the party insanity at your house it is unreasonable to expect an invitation so soon. Things may calm down in the future, or they may not.
Did your son resend the email with the correct spelling? It is not realistic to expect a response to an unreceived email.
Stepdaughter's husband may want to spend the holiday with his family, not unreasonable. It is unreasonable to expect all holidays with one family.
Some families plan holiday gatherings well in advance.
Are you really complaining that the out of town SD won't fly back for the holiday?
Good for your husband on insisting on the two bedroom condo that he and you can afford. You are lucky he didn't insist on a one bedroom so that no one could ever move in again.
I wonder if the OP's kids
I wonder if the OP's kids will bring food to the cookout or just show with empty hands and bellies.
From what I remember about
From what I remember about your post about that night was that your son behaved horribly and that you have some warped image of what your SD is supposed to do. You found fault with just about everything she did or didn't do. It seems to me you're hyper anticipating issues, so when this chick blinks, you have your A-HA! moment.
I don't blame her for blowing you guys off. In this case, she sounds like the sane one.
I'm sorry, but I had to
I'm sorry, but I had to chuckle when I read " I reminded him that he was impolite and insulted a guest In our home."
Nice sentiment, but you can rest easy on that one, because it's not the case at all. No, it is you and your son who are the guests in SD's home. And yes, he was incredibly rude.
I also love how you are angry at SD for not responding to an email that was purposely misdirected. If I send you a housewarming gift for your condo but I address it to "Jally at (totally wrong address)" can I get pissed at you for not saying thank you?
I really feel sorry for your
I really feel sorry for your DH. The person whose true colors are showing are YOURS and your rude DS.
Here's what should happen :
Here's what should happen : your DS should buy you and DH a large house and then DH'S kids should move in and insult your DS in his home. And your DS needs to buy gifts for all of DH'S grandkids.
Only then will you have cause to bitch and moan about how horrible DH'S dtr is.
THIS Marks without smart kid.
THIS
Marks without smart kid.
I am on the tail end of
I am on the tail end of this...and my brain is TOTALLY fried from updating listings all damn day long!!! That being said...making an offer is not the same as a closing, the seller has to accept the offer and it takes time and paperwork after that. Not trying to be an asshole or anything but that's what I do for a living. Well that and bartend. LOL
I stopped reading comments
I stopped reading comments somewhere on the second page or so (right after the contract/closing lesson) anyone who read further, did Jilly ever say who and how the condo was being purchased? Did the husband take any funding from his daughter?