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7 yr old step daugther issues.

mellymel81's picture

I need your opinions! i currently live with my boyfriend of 2 years, we have a 11 month old boy together and i have 2 chidren 8 and 9 yrs old, he has a 7 yr old that lives in AZ and gets in the summer and winter break. our issue is his daughter wants to sleep with him every single night...HELP!
am i wrong for telling him she needs to sleep in the kids room?

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Monchichi's picture

Ninji since the magic of making Little cooksie there has been very little magic re enactment and a whole lot of night wakes. On topic though SD needs her own bed. OP have you considered doing a bit of a decorating session or new bedding and night light shop with the child to encourage them sleeping alone?

mellymel81's picture

currently there is already a night light, we even let her keep tv on to help her sleep but she constantly uses any excuse, which she is pretty good at with dad, like nightmares, misses mom, etc. bedding is already up with posters, extra cute blankets, stuffed animals. it's to the point we have argues badly about it but he doesnt seem to understand my view on this.

mellymel81's picture

we live in a 2 bedroom apartment, so what he does is they sleep in the living room, my 2 kids sleep in their room which i specifically just bought a new bunk bed with bottom as a queen size for his daughter and mine to share.

Monchichi's picture

Three children in 1 room in a 2 bed flat? Additionally this child must co sleep with one of yours? Am I understanding? Added to that she only visits in holidays? You don't say where your 11 month old sleeps in this setup.

mellymel81's picture

11 month old sleeps in crib in our room.
The bed is a bunk bed, top is twin with 1 kid, then 2 kids on bottom queen bed(where she should be sleeping)
I moved in with him during his current lease, lease ends end of July and will get a 3 bedroom to accommodate all kids properly.

mellymel81's picture

BM sleeps with her as well and her boyfriend in the same bed. doesnt help our situation at all. since she sleeps with mom she thinks she has the right to sleep with dad too.

smomofone's picture

At 7, she needs to sleep in her own bed in the kids room. No way would I allow this in my home. Just opening up a can of worms if BM finds out, not only that but its not healthy for a child to be so dependent like that.

SD co-slept with SO up until she was 3. We lived in a studio so he did visitations at his moms. Once we moved I got a 2 bdroom and now she sleeps in her own room. She loves it too, makes her feel like a big girl.

mellymel81's picture

thanks everyone for your replies....totally wish he would understand.
glad you all see my point and agree....now to make him agree as well!
whens he comes to our room and he's sound asleep i sure do walk her back to her room. but eventually later on she comes back again and he wakes up.
so these past days they have been sleeping on the living room floor because he's aware of me not going for her sleeping in bed with us.

ltman's picture

Make a fort! With a bunk bed like that you can make a fantastic fort that will be fun for all to sleep in.