As soon as I'm done blogging, I'm off to the courthouse to file the long anticipated Change of Placement Motion. We've hesitated, reconsidered, rephrased and finally, it's good to go. Of course once BM gets served with a copy of it, she'll go back to refusing to let us have SD6 other than on court ordered days. Per the court order we get her 6 nights a month, we had her 18 nights in May because BM doesn't want to be a mom, but she doesn't want to let DH have placement either. This is mostly because she wants to keep collecting foodstamps, free health insurance and of course CS aka money to buy drinks at the bar. So of course receiving the court papers doesn't mean that she'll shape up and spend quality time, or any time for that matter, with SD6; she'll just resume pawning her off on everyone and anyone willing to watch her, including her first ex-husband's mother. DH has told BM 101 times that he doesn't want SD6 at this woman's house since BM's first exhusband is a violent man and a drunk. At one point last year, the douche showed up at his mother's house and punched her face, knocking her out; SD6 was in the house when it happened. BM has tried lying and saying that SD6 hasn't been over there (we found out otherwise) then she's tried to say the douchebag isn't allowed over there (because he obviously has lots of respect for his mother and her rules) not to mention the fact that there are pics on flakebook of him being there last month. We've offered to take SD6 any time that BM is going to leave her with someone else but if she were to call DH every time she planned on ditching her kid, she'd have to be honest about the fact that she's a terrible mother who doesn't spend any time with her kids. She'd much rather leave SD6 with someone else, regardless of who it is or how SD6 feels about it so that she can lie to DH and claim that she's a good mother.

BM only had SD6 one weekend in the month of May and she pawned her off on her grandma for the weekend. Despite being 30 years old, she's one of those women who act like they're 21 and won't just stay home on a Friday night, eat pizza and watch a movie with her kids. DH wants to be able to show this when we go to court, but hiring a private investigator isn't exactly in our budget so I did some research on kid GPS devices. They track where your kid is at all times and many of them are small or look like watches. Of course there's no guarantee that it won't just get left on SD6's dresser but we're really hoping that she'll like the idea of having a watch or thinking about putting one in her backpack since BM never cleans it, overall just finding the best possible way to keep it on her so that we can keep track of where she is. I've even found a kid cell phone where you can preprogram your number into so that your kid can only call you and you can keep track of their whereabouts.

Obviously if we get her a phone like that, BM may just take it away from her and there's a handful of reasons that this may not even work, but we're really concerned about who she'll end up with since BM will make sure it's not us because she's a spiteful hag like that. Last time DH mentioned wanting placement so that SD6 could go to summer school and take gymnastic classes, BM got her labia in a bunch (because I doubt she wears panties, haha), insisted that she was already doing those things for SD and refused to let DH see or talk to SD6 for a week, which happened to be the same weekend she left her with grandma. The worst part is that SD6 doesn't understand what in the hell is going on and when BM does that she asks why we haven't come to get her. That's part of the reason that we weren't sure about filing to change placement to begin with we've had SD6 so much that it's going to be very hard on both her and our family when she's only allowed here EOW and Wednesday night.

I really hate that people like BM have kids at all. At least BM #1 just left, she didn't stick around knowing she would be a selfish (C U N)ext(T)uesday and make the kids' lives worse, she made room in their lives for someone who would love them. BM #2 on the other hand, not only does she subject SD6 to all kinds of unnecessary emotional turmoil but she even lies to herself about the kind of person and parent that she is. Ugh. Well, this motion isn't going to file itself......