That's just it, it was leftovers which is why I am sure my kid did think it was fair game. The thing is it is always something. For example, we happen to have 2 sets of silverware that is kept in our kitchen drawer. One set is more heavy duty and utensils are a little longer than the other set. Yes, you guessed it the heavier/longer silverware is a set my kid and I had and the other set is the set my husband had. My husband gets irritated that my kid likes to use the heavier set. So, just this week I was putting dishes away and noticed the heavier set was mostly gone and MIA. I asked my husband about it when he was getting off work to see if he knew where it was and he said yes but didn't elaborate even when I attempted to get more info from him. After he got home I was in our room (right next to the kitchen) and watched him try to sneak the heavier silverware out of his lunch bag into the kitchen. So, I stopped him and asked what was going on. His response, it just really irritates me that your kid has to use this silverware like the other set isn't good enough. I said don't you think it's just a preference, just like your kids like to use certain cups from the cabinet that I recently put into another cabinet to make room for new dishes we got recently. The other cups were in a cabinet we don't get into often and was pretty high. I didn't think it was a big deal when I moved them but noticed my husband's kids had gotten them down and I didn't put them back in that same cabinet because I realized they preferred them, so in the more used cabinet they went with no frustration from me. I realized it was their preference and it wasn't a big deal to me. I'm always trying to make us a family but there is so much division that you can cut it with a knife. I'm getting to the point that I am just not making that effort anymore because it doesn't seem to matter what efforts are made it just stays the same. How silly is it that our fights revolve around the actions of my kid? Just feel like there are worse things that he could be doing other than eating leftovers and using a certain silverware. Let's get mad if he's doing drugs or having sex. Seriously!

Actually, my son is now on Adderall. He has been on Vyvance before, but all ADHD meds he has been on has had the same effect on him. I've told the doctor about his poor eating habits on school days vs. weekends and was told that wasn't abnormal and that it's good I allow him to make up for what he lacks during school days. So, I never thought twice about not letting him or making restrictions. ...and I think you are on to something there.... he really does just forget sometimes and has to be reminded sometimes more than others.

Funny you should say... "I should not disregard my husband's feelings" because that's just it, I don't what-so-ever. For example: when the silverware thing happened I offered to go buy a new set and box up all of the old (both mine and my husband's old stuff) just to eliminate the frustration because it's just not necessary. In addition, I'm often going along with whatever he thinks things should be regardless of my own opinion but at some point I have to stand up for my kid's feelings too, which puts me in the middle battling both sides. Pretty stupid a kid can't be comfortable in his own house I think. I would never make his kids feel that way, which is why I just let the petty things go with his kids because it's silly and not worth the frustration of making a big deal about it. I could name tons of things that I can't stand from his kids and they would equally be petty. Like how I can clean the whole kitchen and the moment I walk away someone goes in behind me and puts a dirty cup in the sink. How hard is it to put it in the dishwasher vs. the sink. Or, when one is done with their meal (teenager) they can't seem to take care of the dishes or paper plate they used and just leave the uneaten food, dishes/paper plate on the counter for me to take care of. Guess part of the issue is that I raised my kid to be self sufficient and the others have been waited on hand & foot and expect someone else to do it for him. As for things do have to change... AGREED! I have set many rules for my kid to follow that were not in place beforehand and MOST of the time he adheres to such rules, but on occasion he has to be reminded. To take an issue like not putting on a shirt when you exit your room once out of ten times and say that's an issue is kind of silly in my opinion especially when his kid does it too on occasion. Let's be real, that's just silly! The shirt thing doesn't bother me regardless of who it is but I have still made that something my kid needs to do regardless of my opinion on the matter. Let's get mad over more serious issues is my thoughts, just saying.

Yes, it would have been different if it was the remaining of the hamburgers but it wasn't.

Hiding silverware so someone can't use it is excessive in my opinion also. Husband just takes it as if it isn't good enough and personally I just see it was a preference but what do I know....????

The bigger issue I think is that my husband thinks my kid is just "all about himself" and not thoughtful of others. If you would have said that to me a few years ago I would agree with that statement because he was an only child for a very long time and adjustments have to take into effect. However, he thinks before he does something (or eats something) more often than not and that speaks volumes. Is he perfect at it each and every time, no but he is the majority of the time.