Hi Ladies,

I used to be on this site religiously for a couple of years (under a different handle). It was so comforting to know that I was not alone in what I was feeling & some of the advice offered to me was absolutely invaluable.

Long story short, i am no longer in the relationship (we were living together). I called it quits back in January & I don't regret it for a single second. My ex-bf is a wonderful man but we had zero chance in making it work.
I was not happy for more reasons than one.

What brings me here is simple. I have a dilemma & i'm not sure as to whether I should say something to my ex-bf or whether I should just keep my mouth shut & mind my own business.
We are still friends & are on good terms btw.
I found out that my ex's son is smoking pot. He is 15. I saw something he wrote over the weekend which mentioned that he smokes pot regularly.
When i saw it, my first thought was that I was going to keep it to myself. Why you ask?
Simple....because i'm dealing with a Disney Dad. My ex discovered that his son was smoking pot when he was 13 and his first reaction was that he wanted to get in touch with his friend's parents. He felt that it was the friends he was hanging out with that influenced him. He then decided to pinish his son by taking away his internet access for the summer (this happened at the end of the school year) & not allowing him to see his friends. This "punishment", however, only lasted about a week. I used to ask my ex if he ever checked his ipod & iphone after being found out but he would say he didn't need to because his son didn't go out very often. I could not wrap my head around this. You just discover your 13yr old is smoking pot & yet you do not even attempt to monitor/check up on what he is up to.

My ex is your classic head-in-the sand type parent. The most important thing to him is that his kids (he has a younger boy too) like him. The older one (pot smoking one) has been failing classes since 7th grade & even got held back this school year. He is still failing.
My ex gives his son internet access around the clock with absolutely zero limits. It has been like this since he was 12. He literally goes to bed with his phone every single night. Last term, he failed 3 classes so my ex realized that he is at risk of failing His school year again. My ex asked me my opinion on what he should do and i told him to take away his bloody phone for starters (no brainer really) & give him reasonable access once the school year was over. He agreed with me.
This punishment lasted 2 weeks of course. His son got his unlimited internet access right back.
Now, his son has a girlfriend who is over almost every night. There are question marks all over this for me. I just don't get it.

The bottom line is that since we split & i moved out, i don't offer or give my opinion on anything. It's not my problem or issue. This is one of the very reasons i left. I could not deal with a disney dad.....i was losing respect for him by the minute.
So basically when i saw what his son wrote on the net, my first instinct was to keep it to myself. I figured there was no point because I KNOW for a fact that my ex will "punish" his son for a week or two and then it's forgotten. Head-in-the-sand again.

I know my ex loves his son more than anything in the world but i'm not sure it's worth even saying anything at all. Like i said, i saw what his son wrote almost a week ago & i never wanted to say anything.
Today, i am having some sort of moral dilemma. It is his son after all & mahbe i should just tell him so that i can get it off my conscience (regardless of whether my boyfriend does something about it or not).

Should i just leave it be or should i bring it up to my ex?
Thoughts?