Lol another thing that was brought up this weekend
Dh took me aside and asked me why I doesn't tell him sd wished me a happy mother's day. I told it was because he was napping when she called, and by the time he woke up, it was time to go to my parents house, and it slipped my mind. Which was true. He said he got onto sd about it and she said she had called. I flipped out on dh telling him that sd doesn't have to call me, she is supposed to be spending time with her own mother on mother's day. Dh looked at me like I was crazy. Then he said something about well I thought that her mom probably did sobering to keep her from calling, and I told him it's not up to her mom to have her call me on mother's day. He looked at me like I was a complete lunatic.
I know he thinks I'm just as much a parent of his child as he is. I've tried to explain it to him the best I could before, I really have. I don't want to flat out tell him and hurry his feeling and say "dude I don't love your kid like you do" he'll take it the wrong way. I do care about her. I really do. But I am her step mom, Not her mom. I have only known her for 5 years, I haven't loved her for 11 years (I'm adding the 10 months in the womb for those of you who ate confused)
Seriously, last year was the
Seriously, last year was the very first year she ever called me, and afterwards bm asked her if "that made her a good mom?" Note that dh made such a big deal about this, I think dh bitched bm out about it. To me it's not a big deal, it's a hallmark holiday made to make people who don't have kids feel bad, I have 2 kids who wrote me poems and drew me pictures. I went and bought my mom some alcohol and some pepper plants (if you knew my mom you'd know that was amazing, lol). But now the more I think about it the more dh is pissing me off about it.
He did and later I did, I
He did and later I did, I wanted both of us to at separate occasions so that she didn't get one lumped Apology. I felt that way it might have meant more.