I am 5 months pregnant. Our country is very much in financial recession and despite the fact that myself and Dh are working full time and in roles which carry a lot of responsibility there is very little money left over after bills are paid. Actually mostly my entire wages go on my expenses and I have about 150 a month spending left over before food bills/gas etc are paid. Times are tough here and it's a common situation for most unfortunately. An area of contention is money at the mo. We really do love month to month with no savings. Dh earns more than I. He pays two bms child support and we have as every single weekend. A routine which was established was take out every weekend which used to cost a fortune but dh has gained a lot of weight and I have been begging him to teach ss better eating habits.

I am now 5 months pregnant with my first. I am depressed about my job - I work really Damn hard 40+ hours every week plus two hours commute every day. I would not have this problem if we moved abroad I would be paid fairly according to the job I do but dh doesn't want to leave ss so we stay. He is therefore our main breadwinner. I am begging him to get things organized for the baby. We need to move house in a month (our lease is up) but can't find anywhere in our price range. He is talking about moving back into my elderly fils house until we find something but I refuse to do this because we did this before and stayed for 9 months. The house is dirty and old and not suitable for an infant and I refuse to spend my maternity leave stressed and unhappy hiding in a bedroom. I'm so unhappy about the situation. We didn't even save any money when we lived there because of dh bad spending habits. I was so miserable and was contemplating leaving dh during this time. Next week is ss confirmation, it is expensive as bm pays for nothing, we will have to buy him a suit and then pay for dinner for a number of people afterwards (thank god we are doing separate to bm as I did not want to pay for her dinner too). I am so stressed about having NOTHING bought for the baby. I am beginning to cry and cry about it. Dh just doesn't get it. He announces today he wants to take fil and ss out for dinner tonight (that's dinner for 4 ppl). Also this is wine and starters and desert for ss. Yes it's nice to do because fil is elderly but we will be treating him next wed to dinner for ss confirmation. He already took ss out for dinner on Friday just the two of them. I just feel so upset that we have nothing organized for baby. It's making me really really resentful. Hopefully it's baby hormones??