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BM has $$$ for herself, never has $$ for child

momof4AU's picture

Bit of a rant. What is it with these BMs? After a solid month of calling, texting and harrassing us for money for SD 11 (she claimed SD needed ALL new equipment for softball + the fees) ......guess who went on a shopping spree and bought HERSELF a new car, $80 sandals, New clothes, went to the beach with her BF....and then on Sunday at scheduled pick up time (DH goes to get her, BM is "supposed" to pick her up) she claimed she "didn't have the gas money" So, in other words, she can't be bothered with providing for her own child, but she sure as hell can spend money on herself!
Is this familiar to any of you? This really gets on my nerves. And I have my ways of finding this stuff out, I do not stalk her. We live in a small town.

momof4AU's picture

Her credit is in the toilet. She works for a loan company. I hope she stole money and goes to jail.

onthefence2's picture

This is funny. There are more men that do this than there are women. She's doing it because he gives in and gives her the money, or takes her back home.

Rags's picture

Oh yes. My Skid's (formerly SS-22, now DS-22) Sperm Idiot lives in Sperm Grandpa and Sperm Grandhag's rental property rent free and has for nearly 20 years. They paid every penny of his CS for SS for the 17+ years of the CO, they paid every penny of his CS for also out of wedlock Sperm Idiot spawned half sib #2 by baby mama #2 and raised she and also out of wedlock Sperm Idiot Spawned half sib #3 and #4 by baby mama #2 in their home with no help from the Sperm Idiot. Baby mama #2 scared them into paying CS though they had physical possession of that kid.

The Sperm Idiot would whine and cry about his burdensome CS obligations though he never paid a penny of it himself, he would buy snowboarding equipment, game cards, etc... and last summer when we were in Sperm Land for our 20 year anniversay celebration/vow renewal we dropped the Skid off for the weekend with Sperm Idiot he had a brand new car in his drive way. (A Subaru WRX STi) Not a high end car but not a cheap one either. That just pissed the Skid off to no end since he knows full well his Sperm Idiot is a dirtbag who has never contributed a penny to supporting any of the 4 out of wedlock spawn.

We used to laugh our asses off at the Sperm Idiot and Sperm Grandhags whining and crying about CS and how it was taking food out of the mouths of the three younger spawn and how unfair it was, blah, blah, blah.

Combined with our celebration last summer and my wife giving her dad an adult adoption as part of that celebration I think the Sperm Idiot's new car was the last nail in the coffin that motivated his decision to ask me to adopt him and for him to take our family name rather than retain the name of the rather shallow and polluted Sperm Clan half of his gene pool.

I just got the official copy of the adult adoption of SS-22 three days ago. He has officially written off his legal connection with the Sperm Idiot and the Sperm Clan. He does retain a level of communication with them primarily though his half sister.

If your Skid is anything like mine clarity will come eventually and BM will be written off. Preferably sooner rather than later.

momof4AU's picture

Nope. Either he will cave in to her demands, or my MIL will if SD is visiting her. Drives me crazy. BM is lazy, greedy and selfish. I think BM gets off on how easily they are all manipulated. Not me. I can see straight through her.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Very common. BM and her H always have the latest iPhones and laptops. They go to concerts all the time. They own every video game system and electronic gadget invented. But the skids wear crappy clothes (SS16 wears H's hand me downs and SS10 wears SS16's). They never had money in their school lunch accounts. Never got haircuts. Never had school supplies unless they were bought by us. BM also never has a car that runs reliably and can't pay her bills or buy groceries. But at least she's entertained!

Unfreakingreal's picture

Same here. BM has an iPhone 6. Just came back from a vacation at the Caribbean but she has no money to buy anything for SD14 or to pay her bills on time. Hence why I call her BUM BITCH.