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Hex touched DD

Toastergirl's picture

This past week we all attended SDs 3rd grade western day. They all dressed up in outfits, did games outside all day, etc. DH, DD (10 months) and MIL were all seated together in the gym before the square dance. I was chatting with another woman across the gym. Hex and her mother (hex is like the bud light to her mothers Wild Turkey, PAS wise) came up to them and acted friendly. MIL was holding DD, who was giggling away. Hex then TOUCHED my daughter foot, and tickled her. She held onto her foot for a good minute. I stood frozen across the gym, not knowing what to say or do. DH later told me he wanted to tell her to fuck off, but was afraid of causing a scene. We agreed when I was pregnant that no ex girlfriend or boyfriends would hold DD out of respect. We both do NOt want crazy PAS queen doctor evil holding her. When she and DH were married, she would scream at him and hit him while he was holding SD(who was an infant at the time).

I do NOT want crazy lady touching my kid. I don't want crazy lady talking to my kid. This woman is a sick, emotionally unstable bitch. I know my baby won't inherit her craziness or suddenly be infected, but I just need this ONE boundary. If I sound crazy, then I apologize. But hex has put me through emotional hell and emotionally abuses SD. I don't want an abuser holding my baby.

I never let SD hold DD in public events like this because I KNOW she will hand the baby to her mother of her mother will ask to hold the baby. How do I solve this so it doesn't happen again? SD wants me at her activities. DH wants to be there. Can we politely tell hex to never lay a finger on DD?

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Toastergirl's picture

DHs take on this is "that's how she inserted herself into the situation."

Hex inserts herself A LOT

not2sureimsaneanymore's picture

Your DH should have LAID it into his mother. I know my DH would have gone abso-fucking-lutely ballistic if that happened and MIL would probably lose the right to be around BD. However, I'd let DH tell MIL next time if Hex is around, to give BD back to either you or DH. She either follows your regiment or she doesn't get the right to be "grandma." Sorry you had to go through this. I would have thrown up and tried very hard to prevent myself from punching someone if that happened.

IamexhaustedSM's picture

I would let anyone know that if they are holding DD and HEX walks up to them that they need to quickly excuse themselves and turn away FAST so HEX cannot get the opportunity to touch YOUR baby. If anyone does not do this then they are no longer allowed to hold DD in public settings where HEX might be.