My ex-wife just married a sex offender
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My ex-wife married a sex offender (at the prison), and she plans on having him live with our kids when he is released later this year.
Sadly, in my home state of Tennessee, a man guilty of molesting a girl as young as 13 can live with minor children!
I've been trying to pursue things in the domestic court, but there has been nothing but one delay after another.
I'd appreciate any help/advice.
Thanks!!!
Dave
Child protective services
Child protective services usually frowns on a convicted sex offender moving in. If he actually moves in call child protection and report a sex offender living in the house. They should investigate. Here they would remove the kids from the house. As the other parent if you have any type of visitation they would place the kids with you. At least that's what they do here.
Consult a lawyer to figure out what to do in TN.
The day before the perve is
The day before the perve is released inform the court that you are taking your children because the womb donor is endangering them by brining a sex offender into the home. File for emergency custody, and ... buy a gun. If the perve shows up, take care of business.
Or ... inform the rest of his fellow convicts that he is a child molester. They may just take care of the problem for you before he is released. Convicts do not tolerate child molesters. Let them do what they do best.
If you follow the links in
If you follow the links in the description of the YouTube link, you can find the name of the offender. You can then Google the name and 'soccer coach convicted' and find links to the trial, conviction, and sentencing.
The ex-wife, fiance, spoke in support of this perv and of this perv's good character at the sentencing. The perv plead no contest to reduce the charges. He pled to two charges under an agreement that that was all they would prosecute. The ex-wife didn't see his no contest plea as a sign of guilt.
Read the description under the video. Google and follow the links. You will be outraged at what you find.
Get a lawyer and get a good
Get a lawyer and get a good one. He WILL do it again.
Oh HELL TO THE FUCK NO. I'd
Oh HELL TO THE FUCK NO. I'd shoot the bastard myself. One angle you might be able to pursue--find more victims. I hope to god there were none, BUT sex offenders do not change easily and there is likely a string of children he's abused and if you can find more, they may be able to keep him consecutively in prison for all the counts that can be proven.
I'd start with trying to track down where he bought those poor puppies. If he's used that tactic once, he may have been using it before and the breeder may be able to tell you when he bought them so you have a better timeline to pinpoint.
Other than that, I would be posting this to social media websites like IMGUR or Reddit. They can usually blow this stuff up.
You need to contact the local
You need to contact the local state representative and senator and the governor's office. The actual governor's office. You have to raise a super stink. You need everyone you know to call their local rep and senator and the actual governor's office. You will leave messages as well as the people you have call. Do. NOT. STOP. Calling and leaving messages. That is what you MUST do. You can call the local prob and parole office but only calls to the capitol will make a difference. Call. Have everyone you know call.
Have you tried going to your
Have you tried going to your local media - television and newspaper? Old school, but it might help.
I read an article once on an "underground railroad" of sorts for women running from men who had abused their children. I would think they would also help men in this situation.
The downside of going very public is it is going to make it more difficult to disappear if you decide to go the way.
I am so sorry you and your daughter are in this position. Good for you for doing what you need to in order to protect your daughter.
I don't know the legal terms
I don't know the legal terms or what you would file, but I'd go after proving that she (your ex) is insane. Because she has to be to allow this to happen. Seriously, we all know (sort of) the process they go through to groom these young girls, but they also have to groom the parent to allow this behavior. He has brainwashed her and groomed her into thinking he is innocent and "loving" to your daughter, and anyone in their right mind can see what he is doing. She is not in her right mind. If you can't get the law to help, disappear with the kids. I'll help
Wow, thank you very much for
Wow, thank you very much for all the responses and advice!
Today my siblings and I began reaching out to legislators, advocacy groups, and local media. I already got a request for an interview from a local tv channel. I'll post any progress I'm able to make along those lines.
One of the major problems I'm facing in fighting for my kids is that I've been dealing with major parental alienation for years now, even before the offender was in the picture. Their mom had already been trying to get me out of the picture, but after she hooked up with the offender, things got a lot worse. My ex-wife has convinced my kids that I'm the one responsible for her fiance's incarceration, since I played a role in encouraging the victim to come forward, and I helped the police track him down after there was a warrant for his arrest. This was really used against me with my kids, since my kids were very emotional over all the drama. There is a ton of manipulation going on.
My lawyer was able to get audio recordings of phone calls at the jail. Here are some exact quotes:
Ex-wife to offender (shortly after his arrest): "I don't know why an evil man keeps prevailing...Now all he's done is made sure that his kids will never want to have anything to do with him."
Offender to ex-wife: "Well, I hope that when the kids go with him next, that they make it just a living hell for him, just total, you know, he needs to get it."
My ex-wife is then heard laughing about a text message to my son saying, "Your sperm donor is an ass."
Shortly after this there was a call between the offender and my son where the offender says: "I was moving on with my life, and she was moving on with her life, and just because of your dad, as evil as he is, I'm where I'm at."
Later on, my ex-wife tells her fiance how, when she goes to church with the kids, she leaves an empty seat for him "in between me and [my daughter]." She goes on to say that she will have her "hand out like you're holding it." Imagine my kids witnessing such things.
When my kids finally broke down and started refusing visitation, my ex-wife and her fiance celebrated on the phone, with the her fiance saying things like, "This is a great day. This has all beeen played out too, too well." And, referring to my daughter, "Would you do me a favor and tell her that I'm very, very, very proud of her and I love her very much?"
I plan on presenting all of this crap to the judge, if I ever get my day in court. I've been trying to get a real hearing for over a year now. It's crazy how slow our system is. I was supposed to finally have a contempt hearing just this past Friday, but the judge told me that he didn't have time for such a complicated case, and that he would have to reschedule me to the middle of August! I posted my video Friday, right after the hearing. I felt like going public was my only recourse.
I am shaking after watching
I am shaking after watching that video. I will keep you in my thoughts and pray this bastard does not get to live with your children. I'm sorry, your ex wife is a stupid fucking whore.
I'm literally sick after
I'm literally sick after watching that. Your ex wife deserves no less than death for being the worthless pedo lusting cunt she is. Your lawyer needs to file for an emergency hearing.
What in the WORLD!? And how
What in the WORLD!? And how is this even legal that a sex offender can live with minor children. Nope! Don't let this happen. Get off ST & call an attorney RIGHT NOW!
Here is a summary of the TN
Here is a summary of the TN law from the Tennessee Bureau of Investigation:
The sex offender registry law does not prohibit registered sex offenders, whose victims were minors, from being step-parents to minor children. However, under 40-39-211(c), and 40-29-202 (11), the law does prohibit sex offenders, whose victims were less thirteen years of age, from knowingly establishing a primary or secondary residence or any other living accommodation where a minor resides. Step-parents are not exempt from this law. Therefore, a sex offender, whose victim was less than 13 years of age, and who is a step-parent, cannot live with minor children.
http://www.tbi.tn.gov/sex_ofender_reg/sex_offender_faq.shtml
When I was in Ohio I had an excellent attorney, and I still made no progress. Now that I've moved to Tennessee, and jurisdiction has changed to Tennessee, I may hire an attorney, but funds will be an issue until I find new employment. So right now I'm pro se. I'm still going to try to use the system, even though I have very little faith in it.
I've petitioned the court for
I've petitioned the court for full custody. I've asked for psychological evaluations. I've asked for court-ordered counseling for my kids, and offered to pay every penny. I've asked for my ex-wife to be held in contempt for interference with my parenting time. ALL of these issues were postponed by the judge for another 4 months. It's maddening.
Update: I got full custody.
Update: I got full custody. My kids are living with me now, and doing great.
That is absolutely wonderful,
That is absolutely wonderful, I am so happy for you!! I wish all the best for you and your children.
Here Sex offenders are not
Here Sex offenders are not allowed around children. Especially pedophiles. Even if someone has a pardon, child and family services will intervene. Something is seriously wrong with TENNESSEE. It sounds like you have been getting acknowledged with the laws already, and possibly have seeked a lawyer I hope but it won't do much if its LEGAL. I think this is a huge issue, and most citizens of the state would agree with this outrageous law. My suggestion is make this go viral, Media whatever it takes to get this in the air and maybe the laws of TENNESSEE will change with enough protest, along with identifying this man as a child sex offender, he and your ex wife will not be able to get to far without people protesting and I would also go to the ministry of family and child services and seek their help. Social Workers would have to go through a judge regardless because when they apprehend children are endangered it has to be presented in court, with evidence, at least where I am from. I am a social worker but not for child protective services. This situation would be considered a child endangerment.