Honestly, i don't. I feel as if I'm suffocating. One is 5 and the other is 4. The 4 year old is constantly crying, lying, and stealing. 5 year old will not stop pooping his pants. Both are violent at school, WILL not eat anything, never listen. The "mom" doesn't pay child support, never gets them when she is supposed to. Tells everyone lies. Goes out of her way to let them know I'm an outsider. I can't do this. They can't go one single day without misbehaving. Being loud or rowdy i could handle.. Everything together is too much. Everytime i correct them, my husband undermines me. Every. Single. Time. He wants me to be more patient with them and they would never be punished. They get put in timeout MAYBE twice a week. The rest of thr time is just a warning.
How do i save my marriage from this