Full Custody SD - Irritated!
DH is talking about taking his ex back to court for he and I to get full custody of SD6. I used to fight for her and insist we should go for full in the beginning of our marriage (hindsight I should have just kept my mouth shut!). After DH kept shutting me out and putting BM up on a pedestal for so long...I don't even have the energy to be concerned in the slightest. I no longer feel my input should be considered anymore.
I KNOW it should because she will be living with ME full time (she already does, only goes to her BM like every blue moon)...but I am just fed up with the past crap DH put me through.
When he asked what I thought about getting full custody...I think the only thing I could respond with was just a few eye blinks.
Now he is concerned that I am not "on board."
Grr.
I just don't have the energy to care anymore. I mean, I just don't!
This back-and-forth wanting full custody...not doing anything about it...then wanting to go to court CONSTANTLY for the last few years has just taken it's toll.
Had to get this off my chest.
My H went for full custody
My H went for full custody right before me married. Without discussing it with me, only assuming I was okay with it.
I was not.
If I were you, I would ask my H if he's doing this for his kid or for himself. And did he feel the expense and the stress and tension on your marriage and on his kid were really worth it.
Some people feel this is a no brainer. Get custody. But if they are constantly in tug of war battles, fighting over their kid like she's a doll, then it tells me their not interested in custody.
They're only interested in keeping the game going with each other.
You are so right. I know my
You are so right. I know my SD's BM isn't involved with her because she lives with us full-time, it's just not "legalized" in paperwork.
The game is just so back and forth and now my SD is older she is in the middle and has SO many emotional issues going on right now. It makes me sad, but I am the outsider and haven't been listened to for so long because it's not "my kid."
Just so frustrated and I am over the game.
Oh FormerAAGirl...I am
Oh FormerAAGirl...I am PETRIFIED about the future. I mean, SD is with us full-time, it's just the emotional game she's put through and how she act's out because of it. All the past is finally starting to catch up with her back-and-forth, court, etc etc etc
If my SO got full custody of
If my SO got full custody of his kid(s), I'd leave him. Flat out - no question, done.
We've had full custody of
We've had full custody of SD12 for more than half her life. BM hasn't even seen or talked to her in 3 years. In theory, it might sound like it's better to have no BM in the picture but it's not. SD has caused so much pain and has taken away so much from this so-called marriage that all I do is get more and more resentful that BM isn't the one raising her instead of us. If I would have seen all this coming years ago, I would never have gotten married and I would still be the thoughtful, happy, optimistic person I used to be. Now I'm just a mean miserable bitch.