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Dinner date anyone?

forever2's picture

Wanted to know if this scenario happens with anyone else out there? Please tell me I am not alone. Here is my husband's idea of an ideal dinner date:

Husband to son (my SS), age 16: "Hey son, will you please let me take you out to dinner? Anywhere you want to order anything you want? Please, we can talk and bond and it will be so awesome."
SS: "No dad, I would rather hang out with my friends."
Husband: "Oh please, how about tomorrow then when your friends are busy?"
SS: "Fine, whatever, I will go for the tacos."
Husband: Awesome. I am so happy, can't wait, what time can you go? Can I do anything for you in the meantime? A snack, a little cash, anything? Want to talk about your day?"
SS: "Don't bother me. I will be in my room. Bring me some chips."

AND THEN..... HERE IS MY TURN:
Me to hubby: "Can we please go out to dinner? It has been a really long time and we haven't talked in ages. I have been looking at great restaurants I think you would love."
Husband: eye roll, grunt noise, silence.
Me: "Please dear, there isn't a thing to eat in the house. It has been a stressful time and I really need a break and nothing means more to me than our time together."
Husband: "Can't we just order pizza so I can watch TV?"
Me: Sad and lonely, tears welling up.
Husband: "Ugh, whatever, we can go out, but only to a bar with TVs so I can watch the game while we eat and I can get lots for fries. I don't want a table, but we can sit at the bar so I can see the TVs better. And this better stop your nagging."

Yep....that's my life. Ahhhh, the romance. At least his is capable...just not with me.

Rags's picture

:sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick:

And you tolerate this disresptful marginalization by your husband why? :?

Jsmom's picture

Why are you putting up with this? There is no way, I would tolerate it. My husband makes a point of working on our relationship all the time by putting me first. I do the same for him. You need to have someone that wants to be with you. Doesn't sound like he does. Figure out if this is how you want to spend the rest of your life, begging for his attention.

So sad!

zerostepdrama's picture

Show your DH how to treat you.

Its fine for him to get excited to spend time with his son. But he should also be excited to spend time with his wife as well.

It's probably more he is taking you for granted. Doesnt realize your needs/wants.