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zerostepdrama's picture

DH owes back CS. Basically when SS lived with DH and MSD and YSD lived with BM, BM didnt pay DH any CS for SS but DH paid a lower amount of CS for MSD and YSD. When SS graduated (almost 3 years ago) neither DH or BM filed to have the CS modified. Which I cant believe it took so long, because BM could have been getting more money, since she still had 2 kids and DH now had none. Whatever, it didnt happen for over a year, which by the time it was modified and figured out, DH now owed BM Like $5000+ in back child support. I have no issues that he owed her money, it is what it is.

Last year we filed taxes together. Because I have BS and credits, etc. My understanding is if we filed Married but Seperate I cant claim the credits, etc that I get for BS. So we have to file joint but do the Injured Spouse Form.

Most of the credits, exemptions come from me. BS, BS's daycare, house MIP interest (house is in my name), 401K credits, etc.

Last year I think our original refund amount was around $2500. The IRS determined that $600 of that was DH's portion. (Like if he had filed alone, he would have only been getting a $600 refund). So that went to BM for back CS and the rest of the refund was considered "my portion".

So of course this year I am assuming the same thing. IRS will take about the same portion for back CS.

Well I check today and our refund was deposited. However it was only $800. Which means $1800 is what they are holding for back CS!

I seriously think they flip flopped our amounts. There is just no other explanation.

And of course they hold that amount for like 6 months, by which time DH wont even owe BM close to $1800 in back CS. If our figures our correct by October he will only owe BM $600 in back CS. And we all know we can't count on CS to get shit right. They always fuck shit up in the BM's favor.

I need to do my research and figure out what I need to do to fight this or have them take a second look at everything.

I just know there is no way that they determined $1800 to be DH's portion and only $800 to be mine. And the thought of BM getting "my" money pisses me the fuck off. Especially when most of the refund amount was credits for MY CHILD and the daycare costs I pay for him.

Of course this is the BM who collected CS for MSD even though MSD was 18, not living with BM and had a baby of her own. But as long as MSD was in school, BM could collect CS for her. Well MSD wasnt in school. And BM and MSD were lying to DH about it. Of course we didnt find out until after MSD was done with CS and CS told us the only way we could get the issue reviewed was if we got a lawyer. And the whole time BM was collecting CS for MSD, she wasn't even giving MSD any of the money.

And of course my Ex is $12,000 behind in CS. Wont even file his taxes as to avoid paying CS. Wont even send any paperwork to CS for new modifications ( I thought if the monthly amount got lowered, he would be more inclined to pay CS.)

So yeah I'm feeling a little frustrated today, like the good guys are finishing last.

I was kind of counting on that money to make some big things happen Sad It will still happen, just take a little longer.

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Sports Fan's picture

Zero, I get screwed on taxes as well. NY made me file married filing separately(the same rate as single) for two years while DH was still active duty. DH was a resident of MI ever since he entered the military and NY doesn't allow the situation of married couples with different states of residency. It never occurred in the past because BM never worked while they were married. I paid an additional $2000. Basically they said we don't count your marriage. At least in my case the money went to the state. I don't think I could take it if it went to BM.

Can you just call the IRS and talk to someone? If the money isn't going to be paid out for a while it seems they could change it before that happens.

Good Luck.

zerostepdrama's picture

Oh that sucks. Sorry you guys owed.

Yes it does suck so bad that it is going to BM. Especially since its really "my" money and from having BS, etc.

I found a number to call. I'm counting on it be sorted out (in my favor) because I just know it has to be a mistake. However, when it comes to BM, funny things fall in her favor somehow. It will just take some time and energy to get things sorted.

Dealing with this just puts BM in my head and I dont like it. I dont want to think about that bitch.

Sports Fan's picture

I used to get the child credit but when DH and I married we lost it when our incomes were combined. It's just been a really sore subject for me as well. I spent hours at H&R Block this year fixing part of this years due to an error that the Turbo Tax program made. It didn't cost me much for them to do the form but it was worth it to know the state wouldn't question the correction. I am just glad it is over. DH is now retired and we will be filing together from now on in NY so it won't happen anymore.

zerostepdrama's picture

Yes I'm pretty sure that is what they did! Makes me so mad!

Oh and we owed State this year. Obviously seperate from this issue. I'm like WTF, this isnt our year Sad

zerostepdrama's picture

That is how I feel today. Punished. It's like of course they would f up on this. Of course they would f up when the money would go to stupid BM.

Here I am, raising BS with no financial help from my Ex. But hey at least I get a refund that "makes up" for all those months when money is tight. Wait just kidding. Let's give that money to BM. UGH!

Of all things to mess up.......

zerostepdrama's picture

That is why I am so mad! The reason our refund was even the amount of $2600 is because of MY KID! My kid has nothing to do with BM and the skids.

There is just no way that the IRS can say that $800 is "mine" with me claiming my BS and $1800 is DH's with no one to claim, no credits, no exemptions- nada!

zerostepdrama's picture

I hope that happens... if she does get over paid.

The CS not being modified right away happened with OSD too. Then these idiots (BM and DH) did the same thing a year later with SS and didn't get the CS modified.

So when it was caught with OSD, BM OWED DH like $5000. However they didnt refund it, they let it sit there as a credit. Said when he was done paying CS with YSD (who was 12 at the time) then they would refund any credits back to DH but they would not be cutting any checks.

So technically DH owed BM around $10,000 in back CS for a year and half for 1 kid (which made NO SENSE to me as he doesn't make that much) but since he had that credit sitting out there, they did let him use that and it was determined he just owed $5000.

I think there have been some errors with CS but it was before my time or before we were married and I try to not get invovled because it just consumes me. The greedy and lazy get rich while the good people pay for it.

zerostepdrama's picture

If it was at 5am, then yes that was me. I even woke up DH to bitch to him about it because I was so mad!

Jsmom's picture

I would be thrilled with your situation. I found out last week, I owe 17K to the IRS. I didn't pay enough in last year. Self-employment tax is now 43% for me. I had a good year taking on three retainers and clearly the third one is just for the IRS....So now, this year, I am only going to do 2 retainers. Love being penalized for working hard.

Unfreakingreal's picture

Bitches please…I haven't seen a refund check in over 10 years. DH and I ALWAYS owe money. Last year, we owed 11k. The year before that 15k. I haven't even filed this year yet because what for? To get hit with a nasty bill? I wait till April to file. We are taxed at 37% and despite paying withholding taxes upwards of 70k between the 2 of us, we STILL had to pay more.
Meanwhile, a woman at my job who makes $15.00 an hour, gets back a 14k refund every fucking year. Explain to me how THAT is fair?
DH and I have not a penny in savings because every dollar we earn goes to support our household and then anything left over we end up giving it to the IRS. It's disgusting.

Unfreakingreal's picture

No Zero, you wouldn't. Think of it like this, after this year, he'll be all caught up and next year, the entire refund is yours. This is but a spec of dust in the bucket of Steplife.

DaizyDuke's picture

Oh for the love of Pete, this shit makes me so angry! the thought of one cent of my hard earned money going to a BM makes we want to stab someone.

Would you like some of my Easter candy? I'll share! Wink

zerostepdrama's picture

Candy might make me feel better.

I just looked at DH's CS account and he only owes $1600 in back CS. He's paying $300 a month on it right now. So in like 5 months that is going to be done. (Good news!) But I know last year it showed the $600 (last years amount they determined to his portion for back CS) sitting in suspense for like 6 months. I think it was finally distributed to BM in October.

So if I dont get the issue fixed before, I have to HOPE that CS doesn't fuck up and still give her that money. I have ZERO faith in CS. ZERO.