The skids sent their mom a text saying "love you" from FH's phone.
And a friend of mine says the BM is going around showing everybody this text from FH to HER saying "love you".
I got furious. I explained to this friend how the skids sent the text. I had to help them find her number in FH's phone so that they could send her a text. I didn't know what they sent until a couple days ago. Although, I'm sure my friend believes me - others won't.
How childish is this? And how much more childish is it for me to have to explain myself and my FH. So, FH says the next time he sees BM he is going to say something to her. FH went to BM's house to drop off SD10 and I stayed home figuring that if FH and the BM were going to have it out - I should just stay home. Well, FH gets home and he says that although BM did come outside, that SD10 kept running in and out with the dog and so FH couldn't say anything to the BM.
WHAT?! Couldn't you have just told SD10 to go inside and STAY inside while he and mommy talk?
Am I making too much of this? FH planned on telling BM that HE heard what she was doing regarding the stupid text message and that he hadn't planned on even telling me. I make FH say these things to save my pride and dignity. I wouldn't want the BM to think that ANYTHING stupid she does bothers me. BUT IT DOES!!
So, FH says and does nothing. Barbie said earlier in one of her posts that she is finding her hubby unattractive right now and I am in the same boat. I can't even stand to be around him right now. First BM tells people she has been sleeping with FH since last year and NOW this.
What will she do next? Will it ever end? I feel that I am doomed to endure this type of behavior for the rest of my life if I choose to stay - which is questionable right now.
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And THAT is why SD has her
And THAT is why SD has her own damn cell. Got sick of SD sending "I love you" messages to mommy from DH's phone.
he should have told SD10 to keep her little bootie inside so he could iron out the issues with mom.
She'll probably continue doing dumb shit though...just like children they continue tormenting each other bc they know it's getting the reaction they crave. Taking the high road and ignoring it is damned difficult but necessary if you're to survive BM's antics.
"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."
..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."
The funny thing is: both
The funny thing is: both skids have their own cell phones (they're 10 and 8), but they very rarely bring them to our house. They rarely use their cell phones at all. As we were not in agreement with the BM getting them cell phones, they are prepaid phones and require SOMEONE to buy minutes and so they are always out of minutes.
I CAN ignore HER, but I cannot ignore HIM!
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
As far as the attraction to
As far as the attraction to DH...I can't help ya with that one but if you figure out a solution before I do, please share with me so i can stop looking at my DH like a little horny puppy humping TheFrizz and SD's leg.
"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."
..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."
I don't have a solution for
I don't have a solution for this. I didn't even want to sleep in the same bed with him last night.
But, of course I did sleep in the same bed, and he's a cuddler BIG TIME!!
But I will tell FH that unless he gets his balls back - there will be no sex!!! I will explain "anatomically" how I think sex may be IMPOSSIBLE without any balls.
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
oooh *cringe* I used a
oooh *cringe* I used a similarly hateful line on DH too...they deserve it as far as I'm concerned.
mine was, "hmmm...DH, I thought as part of the divorce decree Frizz wasn't allowed to keep your balls in a safe in her closet anymore? I thought after the papers were signed she had to give them back to you? hm,did you trade with her for something else instead of getting those balls back??"
"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."
..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."
Ha Ha!! I hate to throw the
Ha Ha!! I hate to throw the "balls card" out there, but I feel he deserves it this time.
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
I fully agree "Venting
I fully agree
"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."
..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."
First, I think DH needs to
First, I think DH needs to talk to the kids about the text, and maybe have a gentle age appropriate discussion with them that Mommy and Daddy aren't getting back together.
Second, smnikki said something once that her DH told BM when it was apparent that she was still obsessing over him......I'm just paraphrasing here too,
"BM, do you need help getting over me??"
Anyways, smnikki says it much better and there's probably a little more to it.
LOL, I thought THAT was hilarious, and I know that if anyone said that to me I would feel completely embarrassed and try to avoid doing ANYTHING that sended the wrong message at all costs!
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I don't have a problem at
I don't have a problem at all with the skids sending their mom a text of any kind.
I DO have a problem with what BM does with anything she can get her hands on just to try to make my life miserable.
I will go back and I hope I can find smnikki's post! Thanks
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
It's in one of my blogs
It's in one of my blogs about boundaries.
Was the text that the kids sent supposed to mean "I love you" from THEM or were they trying to make it look like DH sent it? I took it as being the first.
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Oh gosh
Oh gosh NOOOOOOOOOO.............they aren't that manipulative YET.
There had been some texting going back and forth. The skids were just texting their mom to say Hi and whatever. They've sent her texts before saying "love you" and the BM didn't pull this stunt until this last time.
Well, texting from daddy's phone is officially OVER!!
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
I was going to say the same
I was going to say the same thing as Middlemom. You may want to check into that. My ss9 did this kind of thing up until this past September. BM and DH had been split for 6 years at that point. He admitted in trying to orchestrate his parents getting back together. He still does things sometimes. For example, BM brings SS home and he has a donut, instead of just eating it, he'll ask DH if he wants some because Mommy bought it for "them". She didn't buy it for "them", she bought it for SS. Some kids hold on to the fantasy of their parents getting back together longer than others.
I do agree that your husband needs to say something to his ex. I also think that there is no need for the kids to text from his phone again.
"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus
OHHHHH helllll no. No no no.
OHHHHH helllll no. No no no. I would throw a fit from hell. BM can call me names to her kids, she can talk smack to whomever she wants, but she tries undermining my relationship and there is going to be issues.
You are 100% in the right to be pissed about this one RH. Uh uh. I would open.a.can. And I don't get livid easily, I take A LOT of things in stride and I put up with a lot of bull from BM, but not that. No way. No, you are right to be upset don't let anyone make you feel you aren't.
WELL THANK YOU. Because I
WELL THANK YOU. Because I AM upset and FH thinks I'm overreacting over this.
He says there's nothing we can do - the damage is done.
*I* would like to do some damage to her face, personally, but I'm a lover not a fighter.
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
OF COURSE there is something
OF COURSE there is something that can be done. He can tell his stupid ex that he doesn't love her and that she should stop making herself look like a desperate idiot. Ignoring it is like telling her that he does love her! NO!
Nope if he wasn't willing to do anything about it, then another mysterious text would show up stating "I don't love you AT all. So get over it bitch." And he can bury his ostrich head in the sand for ME.
And there is no over-reacting, you are married, that is your man, you are protecting the sanctitiy of your relationship. He wouldn't expect you to tolerate some stranger saying things like that about your man, why would you tolerate it from BM? No reason to.
But you know the truth. No
But you know the truth. No one else really matters. The more confident you appear in your relationship, the more ridiculous his x will appear.
I AM confident in my
I AM confident in my relationship with him. And you're right, no one else really matters.
But when is enough - enough? When will she just stop?
I have finally asked all my friends to refrain from telling me any more stupid stuff BM is saying or doing. I know some of these mutual friends are jealous of my relationship with FH because they chased after him after he divorced BM. They're not REAL friends. I will nip it in the bud the next time they try to tell me anything about her. If I cut off the grape vine then maybe BM will stop making shit up when she knows that it's not getting back to me anymore.
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
Good idea. In fact it will
Good idea. In fact it will probably piss them off that you have no interest in the sordid gossip of an x, especially if they are just trying to get a rise out of you.
He doesn't have to have a
He doesn't have to have a face to face confrontation with her. Why can't he simply call her and tell her that the text was from the kids, and that she needs to get a grip and stop blabbing that he's in love with her? Then, I'd hide the phone from the kids while they are with you.
She ABSOLUTELY knows the
She ABSOLUTELY knows the text was from the kids. They'd been texting back and forth for a couple minutes and that was the skid's final text to her from them.
If he calls her, she will hang up as soon as she can tell that she is about to be called on something stupid she did. He wants a face to face with her because of this.
And FH's phone is now off limits to the skids for texting.
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
Like I said in response to a
Like I said in response to a post yesterday - If The Wookie tried to pull that shit with MY husband, I would knock her flat! I don't care how trailer or ghetto white girl it looks to anyone else.
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Yes, please PM me because we
Yes, please PM me because we aren't even speaking right now. Well, HE'S speaking, but I'm not.
I don't know what I'm gonna do if this feeling continues.
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
I'll tell you what my
I'll tell you what my therapist reccommended. You have to make ground rules. Things that can never happen, things that are acceptable to happen but you need to know about, and things that you must work through together. Maybe if he's ready to make peace you can set those rules, and he may be ready and willing to accommodate you on them!
That way the next time something happens with crazy, you have a plan of action and you feel like a team with him and not a spectator.