Taking SD15 and SD11 Bridesmaid Shopping Tomorrow
I've asked SD15 and SD11 to be bridesmaids in my and DF's September wedding. I get along REALLY well with SDs and they truly are great kids. Their BM is also great, compared to many on here. Sure she says some annoying things but 99% of the time she is a normal rational and even thoughtful BM.
The girls seem very excited about the wedding. They've asked tons of details and are already talking about how they want to do their hair, etc.
My original plan was to pick a color and have the bridesmaids (my sister, SD15, and SD11) pick whatever dress they liked wherever that was close to the color. DF is VERY picky and nixed that, saying he wants them all in the exact same color, so we chose a color at David's Bridal. I finally convinced him to NOT make them all wear the same dress, since what looks good on my 25 year old sister will not look good on his 11 year old daughter. The girls have their choice of maybe 10-15 dress styles all in the color we chose (navy).
They seem excited about it and I hope it is a good experience. SD11 doesn't like to shop much because SD15 is sometimes mean to her when shopping. We're supposed to have a girls day of it.....ballet (for SD15), then shopping and lunch. I hope it goes well! I'm really pleased with how well they've taken everything and I'm nervous something may sour it.
Wish me luck on finding something they both like! They don't have to have the same style, I want them to feel included in the process and pick the dress they like best.
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Good luck with that. I was
Good luck with that. I was you and excited about including my Steps in our wedding. All hell broke loose right after moving in and if I had to do it again, they would not have been included. I have pictures of my SS's sullen face during the ceremony and my brat of a SD hogging the camera. Called it when she was 12 that she was self centered. Should have listened.
Don't get your hopes up, odds are good things generally start to fall apart right after the wedding. If it doesn't for you, you are one of the few...Good luck.
I wanted to say the same
I wanted to say the same thing, but I'm feeling particularly snatchy today and it would've come out all kinds of wrong.
I do hope you enjoy the experience, OP, and I hope everything doesn't head south once the wedding comes. That's what happened to me, and it seems to be pretty common. If the BM really is fairly normal, maybe you've got a shot.
How exciting!! I am glad you
How exciting!! I am glad you have a relationship with your skids that you can actually enjoy all this wedding prep aside from usual teen girl tendencies. Me and DH did a JOP wedding (because I am a frugal biotch lol) and SS3 was there with us. He sort of participated but only so much. It was lovely and we enjoyed it. As long as you are enjoying this wedding planning hoorah then enjoy it, because all this is what you'll remember in the end.
Sounds lovely. SD was 13 at
Sounds lovely. SD was 13 at our marriage. Made her a junior bridesmaid. Took no interest in the dress. The colors. The wedding. Nothing. Galloped up and down the room declaring how stupid weddings are -- at the wedding. Was the first one on the wedding video--declaring how stupid weddings are. Hung all over her dad as he tried to speak into the camera -- hung allover him declaring how stupid weddings are.
Yes, I've only watched the video the one and only time. It's painful to watch.
DH told me he was so happy and in such a good mood he didn't want to spoil his joy by having to police her. I just walked away when he told me that.
Would have loved to have had the experience you are having. I will live it vicariously with you. Happy girls day!
We had a tiny wedding. Just
We had a tiny wedding. Just us in our church. SDs were our only guests. They were very excited at first. We planned a day for the four of us to go shopping for dresses. Just nice dresses. At a store they love to shop normally. It started off great and ended horribly. And has gone downhill ever since. Only one SD ended up coming to the wedding.
Tread cautiously. My excitement and happiness over bonding with them turned sour very quickly .
I learned most of what they say means absolutely nothing