Question to all the teachers out there
As I have blogged about before, BM is now engaged. It's been about two a half weeks now.
She is now telling Skids that they don't have to come to our house if they don't want to. (I know not true but they don’t)
SS told SO yesterday that he doesn't want to come to our house this weekend because he can play video game all day at BM's and not at our house.
SS's behavior has been REALLY bad this week in school. In my opinion because he has zero consequences at BM's and he's not coming to our house this weekend. This happened the end of January as well when she kept them for a weekend.
SS's teacher just emailed that he has been really bad today to include punching another student.
My question is, Should SS's teacher be told about the changing situation. Not about all the crap that BM is spewing out of her mouth about new fiancé being a better father, but about SS not coming to our house and BM being engaged now?
She already knows that his behavior worsens when he isn't coming to our house and zero homework gets done at BM's house.
Do teachers want to know what's going on in the students life outside school?
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Geez, BM is in a world of her
Geez, BM is in a world of her own.
Email Teacher sent me
SS is having a rough day. Sadly, he is on Pink (Parent Contact) today. His first clip change was from insulting another student and calling her bossy. Then he changed his clip again because I told him he had to finish his work and then I would give him a snack. He started whining and arguing. He did finally finish the work. His last clip change was while they were doing a partner activity, I had to call another teacher to locate a student. He decided to come over to another group and started fooling around and then punched another boy in the arm. The story is the boy he punched ripped up a note that belonged to another student. I don’t know why SS got involved but we talked about keeping our hands to ourselves and not getting involved in other people’s issues. I did let SS know that if he hit anyone again, I would have to let Mr. Principal know. He did say he was sorry after I spoke with him.
SO forwarded this email to BM and now she's saying we are lying and SO wrote it. Get a clue BM. Damn I hate this woman.
Maybe SO should respond back
Maybe SO should respond back to the teacher and CC BM with a comment to the effect that situation has changed and to please keep Crazo-BM copied on all behavioral communications. That way BM sees he didn't make up the email and the teacher sees the change in circumstance all at the same time.
I emailed the teacher and
I emailed the teacher and asked her to forward the previous email to BM and cc her on any further communication
So I'm getting that skid
So I'm getting that skid lives with BM and is EWE or EOWE with you guys? Why is the teacher emailing you if skid lives with BM? Does she email BM as well? (I'm guessing not since your DH forwarded BM the email?)
We get them ever weekend
We get them ever weekend Friday after school til Sunday around 6pm. The school has completely stopped trying to communicate with BM because she ignores all communication. She doesn't respond at all.
OK, given that, then I WOULD
OK, given that, then I WOULD give the teacher a heads up as to what is going on. It seems to me like she may be reaching out to someone/anyone who actually cares and might follow through. BUT as someone else said, certainly don't word the email in a way that excuses Skid behavior.
I thought it would be wise to
I thought it would be wise to inform my BS's teachers when his dad and I were divorcing. I notified them and his counselor what was going on, who my BS was living with and to contact me if there were any issues. I got one reply out of 7 teachers. The reply was that it was a personal matter and not her concern.
Yes, it's a personal matter
Yes, it's a personal matter but it's also insight for possible problems in the future.
That is what I was trying to
That is what I was trying to tell them. I just wanted them to know in case there was an issue, in case he acted out or said something. I wasn't expected them to do anything. I just thought they could keep it in the back of their mind. I also wanted them to know the updated living arrangements. I think the one that replied just didn't want to be bothered. I'm not sure what the others thought as they never even acknowledged the messages.
Well that wasn't very nice!
Well that wasn't very nice! If she's that nice to her students, poor BS that year!
Personally, if I were the teacher, I would have said, "Thanks for this information." And left it at that. That feels a bit non-human to me, normal people express empathy etc, but I can see wanting to avoid getting sucked into something with a crazy person. (Not saying you are, just sayin teacher wouldn't have known.)
I don't believe in sharing
I don't believe in sharing personal information with the teachers like this because they honestly don't care or have time to do anything about it. It's useless information for them UNLESS it's a situation like yours where the teacher is actively seeking your DH about discipline issues. To me the teacher in your situation would benefit from the info just simply by knowing yall have heard her and done what you've can but ultimately its BM that controls SSs education other than himself.
In other situations like just a Custody change or divorce, those are personal and maybe talking to the counselor is fine but not emailing the teaching staff.