Had enough
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My idiot of a husband accused me of starting fights with him for daring to ask him a few times over the last few weeks what he's doing about getting the balance of the $4500 his pos son stole from us. The kid (26) just upped and quit his job and we've seen no payment in months! Doesn't seem to bother DH one bit, he's not the one paying the bills! I told him the mortgage company doesn't care if I have a job or not, when the bills are due, they're due! I'm so sick of being taken advantage of. I've seen the texts between the 2 of them lately and it's all nice and happy, like nothing ever happened, and here I am expected to shut up and pay the bills! I really think I've had enough!
Well it wasn't a loan, he
Well it wasn't a loan, he flat out stole it. And what really makes me mad is not the money as much as it is DH just let's it go, has no concern or anger for me knowing I'm the one impacted. As far as I'm concerned he can go live with his son!
How did he steal that much
How did he steal that much money? I'm guessing your name is on the mortgage as well? If not, don't pay it and let him worry about it. Actually, I might just not pay it anyway, especially if you owe more than it's worth. Save the money for your own place
911 - "I would like to report
911 - "I would like to report the theft of $4500.00"
Thanks guys, I'm going to
Thanks guys, I'm going to contact him myself and if he gives me any crap, I will take it further. I've had enough. The house is mine so I'd never not pay the mortgage. But I wont be paying a dime of any of my husbands medical and medication bills until he gets his priorities straight. Let him find a way, or better yet, get his kids to pay them!!! Might sound cold but I'm tired of being treated this way. I wish I could leave but if i decide to divorce, it's getting him out that could be a problem. Plus, due to his condition, I'd probably end up supporting him! I made life too easy for him then he got sick. Bad situation
parents feel guilty and
parents feel guilty and enable actions that are illegal.
make sure your own finances are separate from your husband. get a separate bank account if you dont already have one.
hide your valuables.
parents feel guilty and
parents feel guilty and enable actions that are illegal.
make sure your own finances are separate from your husband. get a separate bank account if you dont already have one.
hide your valuables.
I think your SS has made it
I think your SS has made it very clear he has no intentions o ever paying the money he stole back. Your DH unfortunately isn't 'strong' enough to do anything about it (won't nag kid, won't file embezzlement charges ect). For whatever warped reason (afraid his son will disown him? Afraid his son would do prison time?), DH is deciding to let it go.
You contacting the SS and demanding about the money isn't going to do you much good. The SS doesn't care. SS stole from what SS thought was his dying father on DH's death bed. SS basically spit in Dad/your face when caught and forgiven but expected to pay the money back. The thief actually told Dad/you that he'd call the police on you two or harassment if you two didn't stop nagging/demanding repayment. Do you really think this is a person who gives a darn how he's behaved toward Dad/you? Or how his actions have perhaps hurt your financial abilities? He doesn't. Not one moment of regret or shame in his body.
Without your DH's support, I'm not sure you yourself can now go back and try to get the SS charged. If it was DH's business account and not your joint account or marriage related account, it may be DH who must pursue this. Of course a lawyer would be able to provide you with what and how you/Dad might go about it all. I'm not sure the police can arrest SS if Dad himself isn't willing to file complaint and press charges.
Actually, you have my total empathy here on this one. My mother's 'SD' did something very similar when 'SD's father was very ill and in the hospital. Except this little witch of a daughter wiped out her Dad's personal checking account and helped herself to some household goods or her personal use and called an auctioneer to come out and appraise what all Dad had in his barns and home. So yes, I know exactly what kind of ass your SS is...and Mom's 'SD' was over twice your SS's age. Their behavior doesn't improve with age and your SS isn't going to suddenly grow a conscious and redeem himself.
Your dh wants to stick his
Your dh wants to stick his head in the sand. Fine! Your dh will pull his head out as soon as ss has been served papers for court. Take the thief to court!
As I said "take the thief to court" I then had another thought. Will taking the ss to court do any good. If he has nothing and will not keep a job you will get a judgement but that does not necessarily get you repaid.
I know that the money was stolen some time back. Can you still press charges?
Maybe you should insist on all accounts in your name only. Just a thought.