It's like BM is actively trying to screw with Skids

Last week SS8's teacher emailed a list of items needed for their holiday party and said that the 18th was PJ day.

I was kinda like WTF. I just sent green M&M's two days before, make cookies for cultural day the week before and bought SD juice boxes and snacks for her class. It never ends.

I was texting SO this and he said to text him the list of items and he would have BM send the stuff in. Yeah right. She has NEVER sent anything in for the kids since they started school.

SO keeps it up, so I text him the list with the dates that everything is due. He sent it to BM and she agreed to take care of everything. I know I'm a push over for these kids, but they already have it so hard in school because of BM's neglect (http://www.steptalk.org/node/207106) that I sent the stuff in anyway and told SS's teacher that if BM sent stuff in too, she would just have extra. I didn't want SS to be the only kid without a gift to exchange.

Well, of course BM didn't send any of the items into school, but she did send SS to school with the PJ's on that we provided, only she sent him in them yesterday instead of tomorrow. SS called SO last night in tears because he was picked on all day and BM refused to drive 10minutes to bring him a change of clothes. SO was so pissed last night. I really hurt for those kids sometimes.

I sometimes wonder what these kids would be like if BM would just give to us.

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When I read stuff like that I

When I read stuff like that I feel like rubbing it in the faces of people who call me selfish because I don't want to be a mother. Is this being a mother??? Hell, no!

BM sucks, but SS8 is also old

BM sucks, but SS8 is also old enough to keep up with when PJ day is and to dress accordingly. Does she pick out his clothes and dress him every morning? I think SS has some blame in wearing them on the wrong day as well.

I haven't been around a lot

I haven't been around a lot of 8year olds, but he rarely knows what the actual date is. Also, his mom should have told him to change if it was his idea to wear the PJs on the wrong day.

I think it is very unusual

I think it is very unusual for an 8 yr old to not know the date. My skid has severe ADHD and is an overall airhead, but at age 8, knew the date and always reminded us of things like pajama day (not that we needed to be reminded), especially since teachers remind students of these dates repeatedly in class. I'm not sure what grade your SS is in, but 3rd grade is the year that most schools start holding kids responsible for themselves. If 8 years old, turning 9, is not old enough to start learning to take responsibility for yourself, when will they be old enough?

I'm not sure how much you know about BM's mornings before school, but mine are hectic. When my skid was 8, they got ready for school on their own and I mostly just saw them as they were going out to the bus, if they were wearing something they shouldn't, there wouldn't be much I could do about it without them missing the bus at that point. Now Pjs? Yes, I'd have them change and risk missing the bus, but we really don't know what kind of morning BM had. I'm not saying she isn't at fault, I'm saying it isn't ALL her fault. SS should learn to be more responsible.

I have no idea what her

I have no idea what her mornings are like. I wouldn't be surprised (from what the kids have told me) if she didn't even get out of bed.

Their bus picks them up very close to their house. They be getting ready on their own now. Don't know.

Everyone makes mistakes, she could have been mistaken about what day he needed to wear the PJs, but issue was she was contacted by the teacher and won't bring him a change of clothes. She only lives 10 minutes from the school and doesn't work during the day.

But I do see your point. Maybe this will teach SS to be more responsible for himself.