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Submitted by joz on Thu, 01/07/2010 - 11:48am

I got divorced last year after having seperated from husband 4 years previously.He had an affair with one of my kids friend s mother and i m unsure whether this was his only affair or if there had been more.we have shared care of our 5 children aged 21 down to 11.I have been with my partner for 4 years and have lived together for 2- he is divorced and has 3 children one of which is severely disabled and he has shared care too.we both work fulltime and both of us are nurses.We both find life tricky with each others children at times and our exes.I find it particularly difficult with his disabled daughter as she takes up most of his time and energy to look after her and at times I do regret taking this all on.

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Submitted by Snowflake on Thu, 01/07/2010 - 12:07pm

The comment I really hate hearing from other people who are not in my situation is that I knew what I was signing up for when I married him. That I knew he had two kids.

I NEVER knew it would be this hard. That I would have to contend with a vindictive ex-wife and two kids that didn't have any discipline due to thier parents guilt. Would I have signed up for this when I fell in love with this man... HELL NO!!!

But I am trying to make it work, because I love him. I feel your regret at the not knowing what you were getting into before you married him. It is hard and I don't think any of us would have chose to be in the situation had we known that the kids who liked you before you married their dad, would then blame you for taking him away.