It's the holidays! Code for: DH is pining for the "family and life" he once had...
DH is a douche-canoe. We seem to go through this every year at this time. DH manages, much like my asshat ex-husband, to suck the ever-loving joy out of the holidays. He mopes. He sighs. He acts like a teenage girl with a love sick crush. And it's because he isn't a "unit" anymore with ss. He longs for the day when he and ss and bm were one family.
Of course he would, step-life is not for the weak. And he is weak, clearly. I understand that when it was him and twat waffle and ss things were less complicated. He could take twat waffle to his family's (MIL & FIL) with no problems. Can't do that with Princess Mofo, as I am persona non grata as are my bios.
DH and horse-face could spend colossal sums of money on Christmas gifts for special snowflake without worry. It was all for him. Now dh has to "budget" for the holidays with me. He has, "the burden of providing for two families now and it just seems ss is the one who misses out in the end." Yes, those words were actually uttered. This kid only gets six different Christmas' but he's "missing out" *insert eye roll*
It was brought to my attention that obviously dh and I are not going to have any children together and bm had a hysterectomy a few years ago, so she won't be having any with the new husband (aka the flying monkey). So maybe they just belong together... Yep, I can see that. If he yearns for that connection so much, he should pursue it. Maybe they can patch it all up and let Princess Mofo off the hook.
This solution would make so many people happy and simplify things for dh. Since he and twat waffle work at the same company it would make their work life easier. Dh's family would welcome him back with open arms. SS would have the loving and committed parents he truly deserves and get all the treasures that accompany a nuclear family.
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Believe me, if the
Believe me, if the opportunity somehow presented itself in a way that would cause the minimal in collateral damage, I'd walk away from it all. I'm tired of not being the lead actress in my own life, instead I'm a extra on set...
I'm tired of not being the
I'm tired of not being the lead actress in my own life, instead I'm a extra on set...
Jeepers if that aint the truth! good way to put it!
I'm always saying that I am so sick and tired of having to bend over and take everything up the ass because DH stuck his wank in a skank (well two skanks lucky me)They always say marriage is a partnership... well not true if there are skids and exes involved. It's a freaking conglomeration and for some reason the ONE who is SUPPOSED to be the PARTNER is at the bottom of the steaming heap.
Thanks, Daizy. I appreciate
Thanks, Daizy. I appreciate the show of solidarity. ((hugs)) Fuck it all. I think I'm going out today and buying some shoes. Clothes might not always fit right, marriages fail, world peace is unattainable, but shoes... Shoes always win!
Ah yes! Shoes and purses can
Ah yes! Shoes and purses can ALWAYS make me happy!
Wow, I'm so sorry your
Wow, I'm so sorry your husband is like that. What ever happens I hope the best for you and your bios.
I don't understand...why are
I don't understand...why are you still with him? If my DH wanted to still be with BM...his ass would be out. He longs for the day when he and ss and bm were one family. .........this....ouch. You sound like you deserve better...not with someone who is missing what he used to have.
can I ask you? Does your DH
can I ask you? Does your DH actually SAY these things ("I miss being a family, I miss this and that") or is it is actions that say these things? either way it's stupid and sucks, but damn girl... if he is actually VOICING these things? I'd be running for the hills.
Some things he says in a
Some things he says in a passive-aggressive manor not point blank. But a lot is actions. You know how posters always talk about how the home dynamic changes when it's a skid weekend? That's what I experience. And it's amped up to mach 5 during the holidays. Twat waffle makes his life difficult year round but she dresses it up to the nines during Christmas. It's not merely perception either. It hangs like a dark cloud this time of year. You can physically feel it.
And unfortunately, my dh and twat waffle are probably one of the worst cases of enmeshment on this site due to the fact that they still see each other everyday at work. In addition, they see one another at exchanges on weekends and extra-curricular activities. You can't move on from someone when they are still in your face 8 hours a day, five days a week. He knows it. She knows it. But yet, 5+ years after the divorce neither has bothered to get another job (and believe me they aren't stellar career paths where they make six figures each). So the only logical conclusion is they continue this way because they want to...
Have you actually said this
Have you actually said this to your DH? I have and it worked wonders.
I told him flat out, "Fine. Go back to her. Live in a hovel, scraping by and hope she doesn't bring home any diseases. I will be just fine here on my own. I don't need the drama that bitch causes in my life."
Last time I ever heard a good word about "when they were a family"(tm).
OMFG!!! "Dependapotomous"
OMFG!!! "Dependapotomous" BWA HA HA HA!!! That is TOO funny!!! Sounds like the BM in my case as well. If she isn't a stay-in-bed mom, then she is at some fluffy, cushy, do nothing gov't job and leaching off a man's salary.
I so wish the gargantuan BM in my case didn't get remarried to a six figure guy so when I said "well go back to your family then" it would have MUCH more meaning!
How long has he been pining
How long has he been pining for the good ol' days? Chef still talks about "when BM and I were married" :sick: :sick:
He used to pine like CRAZY for YEARS after the brats PASed out. Chef is a "coochie coo" type and ADORES widdle biddy kiddies in Halloween costumes. Personally I think pets are much more cute; I have this INATE ability to see children as potential adults which really makes Chef PISSED.
It's calmed down somewhat. After ten years, he no longer pines for giving out candy at T or T time. He was SERIOUSLY depressed when the BM cut him out of T or Ting because her fake-o CPS report was overturned.
When he first broke up with Ama-zilla, he SOBBED for TWO WEEKS STRAIGHT, no lie!!! I thought to myself WHAT THE HELL HAVE I GOTTEN MYSELF INTO???!! When I broke up with my husbands I was quite literally dancing on air!!!
BTW LOVE you avatar!! I'm a big Scarlett O'Hara fan!
Thanks, Thrice! I love
Thanks, Thrice! I love Scarlett too and am a huge fan! My sister is the one who sent me that and stated, "The similarities between you and Scarlett are striking. Especially the bitch face." In my family that's considered a true compliment.
Thank goodness that my DH
Thank goodness that my DH never pined about what used to be...he KNEW he got out in the knick of time!