ss was 12 when he kicked me both times and I was alone while my husband worked nights, bm talked up how amazing her home would be if ss came to live with her and told ss that I was the evil sm and she didn't believe anything I warned her and her husband about.. 6 months after ss moved in with bm they called to organize a meeting cause they couldn't handle ss and everything I was telling them by phone and text was very true they just thought I was being evil and didn't like or love my ss... so she had to deal with the ss for another yr had to pay fines (I had to pay two fight tickets, and 3 truancy tickets while he lived with us and now since he moved back we paid another truancy and about to get another one) deal with the cops and drugs and alcohol and sneaking out and just total disrespect that she taught the ss and it backfired on her.. now he came to live with us cause I couldn't give up on him and thought now he had first hand view of how his bm really was and much she didn't do and how much I really did for him.. He was good for the first 2 months then he started breaking the rules and didn't want consequences and started the disrespect all over, now I am done, when is enough enough??? if this was my bs I would have gone toe to toe with him and put him in his place but im not im just the sm so when I treat him like a bs then I get told im wrong or I was to harsh, for example. the ss was told to clean his bathroom. ss said he would when he was ready he was laying down, I told him no I said now. he said no! so a few min went by I went and looked at the bathroom and all he had done was picked up the pile of cloths he is so lazy he couldn't put them in the laundry room.( there was still empty cans, mud on the floor, my decorative towels all over, the shower curtain a wreck, tooth past on the mirror and in the sink) so I just grabbed his tv took it to my room and all hell broke loose. (this is when he cursed me out, got in my face with his fist balled up and scared my daughter) he said why are you taking this I told him just go lay back down and do what you want, (I have been cautious of myself to not raise my voice or curse not even saying damn or shit or hell) I went back to finishing cleaning the kitchen from dinner, then he went off! dh said that I went overboard by taking the tv completely that we live in the country and he really has nothing to do..... my thoughts are then don't f@#$ing break my rules in my house!
bm wont allow him to live with her and my mother in law wont allow to spend the night again cause he stole her cig and lighter then helped her search the house for them and he had them the entire time..... that to me is very scary... when my husband works nights I hide all the knifes in the house cause I am afraid of him.