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Can the court order me to allow stepson to live with us?

50dad's picture

My 15 year old stepson Eli has beat his mom (kid's 6'02), kicked lamps by her head and tried to disarm me while I'm on duty (I'm a cop)so he could kill himself. He kicked his door completely out, jamb and all, just missing my 3 year old boy. Then he crawled through a window to escape and is with his dad. Since then he's made at least two suicide attempts and is a recognized drug dealer in our area. He went to Juvenile detention for an assault, did two weeks got released. Then he went and beat up his dad. Now he's back in for cutting off his ankle monitor. During this incarceration he's been telling the shrinks that his dad sexually molested him. So consequently that means he cant live at dads no more. His girlfriends dad offered to let them live there. I say good riddance but am worried the court may look at it like we have to take him back. I don't want that a**hole around my precious boy. He's out of control and dangerous.

Indigo's picture

Protect your family. If that means a PO, do it. His mother may choose to remember the baby boy and deny the reality. That's so normal. Don't fall for it. 'Protect your family' may place you at odds with SS's mother for awhile. Do it. Do not allow SS near you, his Mom or your son. Your SS-15 is a loaded gun laying on the coffee table in full view.

Rags's picture

You had the perfect opportunity to end your problem permanently and protect society at the same time. When your violent sociopathic SKid tried to disarm you so he could kill himself that was the perfect opportunity to shoot him or let him follow through on his intent and end the problem.

This kid is so toxic it should not be hard to have him incarcerated regularly and get him out of contact with your family.

That seems the only course of action to me. I would not allow him anywhere near my bride and 3yo were I you. Get a PO keeping him far from your home and family then let him pick up soap in the shower for the elder delinquents in Juvi until he turns 21 then he can move up to servicing the big boy lifers in the big boy prison showers.

Take care of yourself and your family.

weekendwidow's picture

The kid needs help. He's screaming for it. My SS had similar tantrums and poor behavior, we wanted to have him go to rehab. We couldn't force him because anyone over 15 can sign themselves out and he was never arrested for his behavior so the court couldn't order it.

This boy is a danger to himself and others and needs help. Arrest him - or have someone else do it - and get him somewhere that can help him, before it's too late. My gosh.

50dad's picture

Yeah Rags big mistake on my part not having him charged with assault when he went for my gun. I just knocked him on his ass and called my supervisor. We had him taken in for an M1 (emergency mental health screen). Everything was documented with the DA and they charged him with criminal mischief for breaking the door. He has been in for at least 3 M1 evaluations since then and been arrested twice. We are pushing to have him committed but the DA and probation are pretty much playing patty cake at this point. He had 20 probation violations including hot UA's and they said he just needed to try a new school environment. Now he is expelled. My wife sees the writing on the wall but she is of course very conflicted. I've been trying to talk to SS's court appointed shrink but I guess he's out of town.

I should have had him charged when he beat on his mom when he was 13. We tried to handle it "in house" with love and logic crap. His dad should have had him charged for beating him up but wouldn't. This kid has had too many breaks.

I think a PO is my only recourse. This is going to hearing on Tuesday.

Rags's picture

Good luck on the PO. I hope you get it and can get this toxic kid far away from your bride and your toddler.