Lessons Learned in Hindsight

Okay, people. If you're going to get divorced, then please, be sure to get ALL THE WAY DIVORCED.

Half the utilities and the homeowner's insurance are still in BM's name. This means they don't want to talk to me at all about things like keeping the lights on or finding out if the insurance pays off the mortgage upon death.

Thankfully, she's more than willing to help. I don't know where I'd be if she wasn't.

Dear DH - I know you must be in heaven (more like valhalla!), you wonderful man. But I dearly hope there's just one minor demon to stick you with a pitchfork for me on your way up. I love you baby but you really made this all harder than it could have been.

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Lol...he needs a poke. What a

Lol...he needs a poke. What a mess, good thing BM is helping. Will you have to move? If so, do you have a place to go?

Is there a separation

Is there a separation agreement that specifies who gets the truck? If so and something happened to him before he got her name off then you ought to be able to have her name removed - though you'd have to wrestle with the DMV a bit.

It does look like we'll have

It does look like we'll have to move at some point soon. From what I can tell, there was no mortgage life insurance (a lot of people do have this, it just pays off the mortgage upon death). But even with the house paid off I would still have a lot of trouble affording the utilities and paying for all the things that keep breaking in this old place. Not to mention property taxes are high around here. The house needs a roof and paint inside and outside to make it remotely sellable. So I might just have to walk on the mortgage. No idea what to do with all of the stuff in this house, either. DH was a pack rat!