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Always Responsible for planning SD's Events

Frustr8d1's picture

I posted earlier about me being the one and only person left to plan birthday parties (and ALL holidays for that matter) for the past 7 years while BM is off moving from boyfriend to boyfriend with no concern for her kid's upbringing. So again, this year, DH is working 12s for 3 weeks, including SD11's birthday and again, I'm alone to plan it and make it work.

For those fellow STalkers who offered ideas, I THANK you. I will use your ideas (i.e. Dtzy) and I already reserved a party place on the weekend BEFORE DH will be unavailable. That way, he can share the joy (sarcasm). It's 2 weeks prior to the actual birthday but it's just going to have to be that way.

For those of you STalkers who decided to use my dilemma as an opportunity to bash me as if I'm the big jerk who is the only one available to raise SD and oh, poor SD....well...(insert explicit language)...do you really feel the need to criticize the only person helping SD? It doesn't help to express virtual pity for the kid when you don't even know how rotten this kid is to live with, nor does it help to criticize why DH doesn't just change careers. He can't change careers, he's 19 years into the military and A) they won't let him out until he fulfills this last commitment, and Dirol it makes no sense to get out and miss the 20 years for retirement by getting out 1 year early.

I don't care who feels so sorry for SD when here I am, the one who is being used especially by BM and I'm the one who has no outlet for my resentment. Yes, I do resent all 3 of them...BM, DH, and SD.

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Disneyfan's picture

Your husband's career is no excuse for him not parenting his child. What kind of parent allows his 11 year old child to roam the neighborhood at will? What type of parent allows an 11 year to disengage from the family? Both parents have checked out on this kid.

I can understand your resentment, but that doesn't mean there is something wrong with feeling sorry for this CHILD.

Frustr8d1's picture

I'm flattered that you follow my SD's life so closely. Feel free to come pick her up anytime and saving her. Wink

Oh, and we don't live in the kind of neighborhood you might be thinking of.

blayze's picture

I don't understand why she needs a party every year. Can't DH take her out to dinner when he's available? I damn sure wouldn't celebrate the birth of the thorn in my side if her own parents aren't planning it.

Frustr8d1's picture

Thanks Blayze. My thoughts exactly, only I'm too big of a wuss to deny this child her "childhood" by planning the stuff she really wants.

Disneyfan's picture

OP, if you didn't have to live with SD and heard about the way her parents parent her, wouldn't you feel sorry for her??? I don't believe anyone can really read/hear about a CHILD being dumped by one parent, or parented by the other and not feel for him or her. Some kids are lucky enough to have two great parents. Some end up with one good and one bad parent. This poor kid happened to land in the group who ends up with two useless parents.

I understand how you feel.