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PHONE CALL FROM SD14

jstorie's picture

SD14 is in a theraputic home she gets her calls on monday and wednesday. Dh answere the phone at 9pm last night we were laying in bed (been battling the stomache bug) She says a short "HI" its obvious shes pissed off and Dh says "whats wrong" followed by the typical "nothing" answer. DH "okay well how was your day?" that was it she went off. crying "I knew this would happen everytime i call its a fight. mom always does this she wants an apology and if i give her an apology it would just be sarcastic i talked to my counsler about it no matter how hard i try.." DH" wait you mean to tell me your trying your not trying at all mom does want an apology or a reason that everytime her name is brought up you explode" SD "Im not doing anything for her she doesn't deserve it. I am done I am freakin done"
and hangs up on him. i roll over in bed almost in tears she is picking fights over everything 5 phone calls in a row have been like this. its ridiculous. i couldn't stay in bed. i got up and said i cant freakin take this! she wants to be done. you have no idea how much I want to be done! dh says"BE DONE THEN" I said "its not that easy she has no where elsee to go but you. no where. the only way to be done is to get a divorce. "DH"IM GLAD EVERYTHING IS SO BLACK AND WHITE" walks off. i went to the couch and watched a movie and the baby got up so i went to bed about 3 this morning to go to work today. i call dh and asked him to call the counsler if i go to family therapy sunday its just gonna be a fight. he said he wants me to come that hes sick of this and wants to put and end to her treating me like this, i need to be there to hear it and so does the counsler. Is it bad i don't want to go, i fell done 6 years of therapy has all been the same thing. i know she will be 15 in a few months and we will be at the 3 year mark but shewill not stay that long. should i do ask he asks? or be done?

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Jsmom's picture

I wouldn't go. Sounds like nothing is being accomplished. You need to disengage completely. He needs to figure out an alternative to her coming back home.

jstorie's picture

yes, i am the mom she refers to im the only one she has bm is a lowlife in and out of jail shown up once in 10 years.