So DH is starting to stand up against BM. Is everything he does right? Of course not, we all make mistakes.

DH went to get SD11 and SD8 on friday night. I decided to stay in town and see my cousin, whom I haven't seen in at least a few months. I had my BS13, BD9 and DD1 with me. We had dinner and of course DH didn't tell me before my cousin ordered all of us dinner, that he had planned to take us all out to dinner.

Honestly I was kind of glad my cousin already ordered because a dinner out with the skids is a nightmare. They complain about everything, whine about everything and aren't remotely polite.

I'm sitting at my cousins and I get a text. Here's how it goes:

DH: sitting at mom's waiting to see if the cops show up
ME: WTH

So I called him. DH went to meet BM at the church, saves DH a whopping 40 minutes to get the skids. BM says to DH that SD8's game is sunday and she wants the SDs back at noon. Ok so mind you of course his visitation is until 5pm on sundays.

DH said he had plans for the weekend and he was tired of missing his time or BM demanding them back early. DH hasn't seen the SDs but twice in the last few months because these games and other various BM reasons.

BM then says to SD11 and SD8, "then get out of the truck, you aren't going" DH got pissed and backed up to get away from BM. Told BM he was tired of this and it's his time. As DH is driving away BM is screaming "I am going to call the cops on you"

Seriously, so DH says "I'll be at moms" and drives away. Man was I glad I missed this fiasco. I told DH, she cant call the cops on you because you are taking the kids for your visitation.

So no cops show up obviously. BM continues to text DH, saying he "better" have them back by noon. So he tells her he'll drop them off at his moms. I thought "idiot" but whatever.

So the weekend went on and we did our thing. Drama from SD11 on saturday because she wanted to wear the same jeans from friday night. It's because the jeans we bought her actually fit her and she likes to have the ones on that dont. I wont go anywhere with that.

I didn't say a word for 40 minutes while SD11 decided to argue with DH on why she wouldn't and wasn't going to wear the jeans we had. I finally stepped in and told her "go do what your dad said now". DH in disney fashion went after the wailing kid and took her to buy yet another pair of jeans. This time down the street to a place that didn't have her size.

Do you know this girl wears 16 misses jeans and said they were too big? They aren't by the way. I gave her a belt, nope. So DH takes her to the store and she picks out ladies size 12 jeans. Would you like to guess what size jeans I wear? Yep size 12.

These are wayyyy to big, so she demands my belt. Whatever, DH shove this belt, "here". I walked away. We are already and hour behind because of her. So we go to the pumpkin patch and then to pick out cosutmes. Yep the costumes UGH!!!!!

SD8 chose a gypsy, wow $20 bucks for a headband and some colorful shirt with this sparkly skirt, whatever. BD9 picked out a monster high costume, it was weird too. What's up with costumes these days.

SD11 went to the womans, picked out a "adult huntress" costume size 12-14 ladies. Yep something I could wear, not that I would because the front wouldn't cover my breasts properly. I am not sure how she is going to wear this thing. I just said "up to your dad" and walked away.

Sunday DH had the whole day planned. SD8 told BM when she called on saturday that she wanted to go with us on sunday instead of her game. BM claimed DH guilted her. DH didn't but whatever. So DH blew like another $100 for everyone to go to a drive thru animal zoo.

DH complained to me because my BD9 at one point was upset we had to leave so she was pouting. I told her to knock it off. Did DH discipline his kids effectively? NO!

SDs complained about everything and also decided to tell us all how their "family" had been there before. So yeah that was super great.

I told DH on the ride sunday after dropping them off.

#1 You need to stop giving in to SD11 or this will go on forever.

#2 You do realize that BM will withhold them on the weekend of halloween which is your vistation because SD8 has a game sunday and she'll do it so she can have her way? DH's response: I bought the costumes already, I'm getting them.

So later DH asks me where the kids costumes are, I said in the bag in the other room in case we have to return them. I asked dh "next time can we go somewhere none of the kids have been?"
I hope that didn't seem ungrateful but I dont want to here about DH, BM and skids go here or there, or "oh remember that time". I know he has a past but geeze.

It's funny how DH has money on the weekends skids are here to do things and will plan "family" things for us to do. Whatever!

I dont mind doing these things with the kids but when it's a fight or whining the whole time, it kind of ruins the whole thing.

I am proud of DH for standing his ground with BM. I just am preparing for the next fall out. UGH!