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Im_Still_ME's picture

Any suggestions for new users??? What to do, where or how to post first??

Thetis's picture

ummm.... You can tell us your background story. Who are you... why are you here... what bothers you...

Im_Still_ME's picture

Thanks, I would need several hours to get out what is on my mind!!!! I put a post out, I guess I will see what happens, atleast by posting somewhere, it helps to get things off of my chest!

Clorell's picture

Mean Future Step Children, I need advice

My fiance and I are planning to marry this July. He has two children and I have three. My children adore him and treat him well. They are very loving children and in the three years my boyfriend/now fiance has been in my life, they have been supportive and caring. (A future step parent's dream) They are Christian children and love God.

On the other hand, his children are just the opposite. They come from a mixed-racial marriage. My fiance' was in the Air Force. He met his Filipino X-wife when she was his cleaning lady, and brought her to America from the Philipines about 17 years ago. She cheated on the marriage often, currently runs with military men, fights with and cusses at him, demands money from him, and tries to be as nasty as she possibly can. Her chldren, unfortunately follow suit. They cuss, constantly demand money or things from their father, and are rude and sometimes disrespectful to me. Sometimes they are domineering and mean toward my children too. (I have talked to him about that.)

He wants them to live with him, me and my children when we marry. This will only spell disaster, won't it? They currently live with him in a small rental home because his x-wife doesn't want them to live with her.

Why am I with him, you may ask? He attends my church, is loving, generous, and caring. He pursued me and I fell in love with him. He tells me that I am his soul mate.

Someone out there, please, talk to me. I trully do love him, but am aware of the stress and challenges that will come after the wedding. Am I making a big mistake? How do I deal with his children? How do I protect my children from their behavior?