I'm hoping with all the nonsense as of late that dh's finally headed down the direction of getting a parenting plan in place. I talked with Dh last night and he said that in his heart of hearts that he doesn't think he could get custody of Ss because although Bm is a loser who doesn't really take care of Ss-he doesn't really have proof other than the notebook we have. Dh says that it seems like it'll be very expensive and Bm will fight him hard and he is so beat down from the years of drama/conflict/abuse that at this point he just wants his vistation, holidays, transportation, written communication and the medical (who pays co-pays/deductables) figured out so he doesn't have to live in fear that Bm will w/h Ss whenever she feels like it. He said he's even been thinking of going for every other weekend, I told him though that someone here mentioned that hey have the 1, 2 and 3rd weekend of the month the 4th weekend goes to Bm. He said he liked that idea and wants to see the lawyer says. He said he's thinking we don't need a lawyer because in our state you have to go to mediation first but it'll be good to get legal advice and see if what he's asking for is out of the question.

Honestly, I feel bad for him. I mean, I know he's in the bed he's made for himself but my heart still aches for him. He seems pushed to his wits end with all of Bm's bs and wants to deal with her as little as possible. I hate seeing him this way. Yesteday Bm started calling again while he was at work. He says he thinks she was doing it when she knew he was at work to see if it was really him not wanting to talk with her. He said he text her asking what she wanted and she said Ss wanted to talk to him. Dh called and Ss answered and told him Bm said he couldn't visit this weekend because he was going to some event. Dh hung up with Ss and text Bm's phone and asked "so you're withholding visitation this weekend?" She replied "I'm taking him to an event" Dh questioned again "So, you're withholding vistation then?" Bm responded "the answer is in my last text." Dh text again "Okay, so you're withholding vistation." and she responded "no, i told you im taking him to (insert event name), you can pick him up saturday night if you want and bring him home sunday" she's so crazy. I feel like she knows that he's trying to get documentation against her and she's trying to not say anything. She's so immature it's ridiculous, I've never in my life met anyone so vindictive and immature. I feel like she's progressively gotten worse over the years over what appears to be her being threatend by me. I say that because her constant need to try to bring me into their issues by reminding Dh it's none of my business. I almost feel like I want to reach out to her and tell her I am no threat to her and that I would like to get along with her for the sake of Ss-that I could help her, even. I would never ever do that of course because I know it would cause issues but I feel like she's so bitter/mean because she hates me so much. There is no reason though, I'm not here to compete with her or take her place. I'm very logical and I know there isn't anything I've done but I almost feel sometimes like the issues going on are partially my fault simply because I am in my husbands life.