I'm feeling that way right now. BM is driving me nutts!! I want to vent about it so bad, but my blog would be way too long ):
So I'm just stuck here repeating "wtf, you stupid bitch".

If I exploded on BM, even if SHE was the one being crazy...she would turn it around on me.
BM would try to get any little thing she can about me or from me so she can use it against me. She will twist words, make me out to be a dangerous person, use me as an excuse to keep SD from us.

(these have never happened. but I think they would. SD's BM is very vindictive.)
So...unfortunately...as much as I would love to give her a piece of my mind (and fist).... I just pretend she doesn't exist.

I'd beat the shit out of SO though if he didn't address her late night call. Him answering = him enabling her.

The one time I went off on BM I actually had not intended too. I simply asked her why she told the skids to not say hello to me when I saw them out at a restaurant. What got me going from 0 to 100 in seconds was when she began telling me it was my imagination and when I said my daughter even heard her, BM said "shoe, shoe…go back into your own little world!"

With DH standing there, she begins to tell him that there was a badminton net he could put up in the back yard. When DH started to walk to the back I began to follow and BM stopped me. She told me I was not allowed back there and that she would call the cops.

I told DH that wither he was coming with me or I was going with him but that he was not leaving me alone.

BM in here pity party tells DH….go, I don't need you! I can find someone else!

Then I made my move…You should be able to find someone BM with all the MEN you have coming and going around here you SHOULD be able to find someone!

:O BAM, SCORE!

DH has never gone back there again to help that bitch }:)

I told BM to fuck off once. She texted H and told him sd told her that I was mean to H and Sd and she was going to send him money to move out. I told her to fuck off and come on over and get him and as soon as she pulled in I was kicking her fat ass. Our relationship is her turbulent...

I did, once.

After it happened, I realized that BM is all smoke and no fire. She bulldozes to get her way, EXPECTING everyone to cower and step aside.

Most of the time I'd just ignore her behavior because it wasn't aimed at me -- it was at DH. That was HIS problem. But when she turned that evil eye (you know, the one hanging between the two towers in LOTR) towards me, I gave it back plus some. She didn't know what to expect, because all her screeching, bitching, and hoof stomping didn't phase me a bit.

Haven't spoken to her since, and she's done a damned fine job of avoiding me, which is exactly the way I prefer it. She can think/say what she wants, her opinion of me does not define who *I* am as a person.

I haven't had the opportunity to really "go off" on her yet. She did call me a skinny bitch once, and I told her to "suck it up...Oh wait you've had 5 kids before the age of 35, you obviously cant suck anything."

I imagine many interesting conversational attempts by her when we go to court.

I agree with tog-although I understand your frustration, snapping on bm just gives her what she wants. She wants to know she got to you.

Most of the time, I left my "snapping" on BM to the judges who would give her tongue lashings in court. Most of the time, BM was scared of me (for what, I have no clue, I helped DH but ignored her for the most part).

But there was one time when the universe aligned and I couldn't control myself. The highlight was me calling her a fat fucking cow (in front of her house). That was just a knee-jerk reaction based on how much weight she had gained since I last saw her.

Did it change anything? Hell no. Well, I guess she went and got weight loss surgery. She's now pretty thin.

The only thing that really seemed to change anything was when the judge ordered her to pay a Contempt of Court fine to DH. The only thing THAT changed was her taking him to court constantly.

Oh god OP our bm would do that. Constant phone calls at all hours (bm rang once at 6.30am on valentines day about a non emergency and while we were on our honeymoon at 8.30am, it was never.fucking.ending so long as she could insert herself in our life. When that didnt work, she would get my ss to ring, usually crying, because she had told him something cruel to wind himup ).

Is it possible for dh to only communicate with bm via email?

The one time I lost with bm, I had kept quiet for at least 3 yrs even through the harassment and abuse. Bm rang my house and proceeded to scream at dh about the fact dh gave ss an age appropriate birds and the bees talk to ss nearly 9, she could hear me in the background talking to my cats and she flipped her lid. Telling dh to "shut your wife the fuck up..." and I literally saw red. I snatched the phone out of his hand and told bm that she was a useless fucking c*nt and if I want to talk in my house I Fing will. She proceeded to say she would come over and make me shut my mouth, to which I told her to do it and I would be glad to ring the police and prosecute her. It would be yet another mark on her crimimal record.

Felt good to actually participate in my life vs being told to shush for ss sake. I knew it would only give bm more excuse to act like a psycho but tbh she didnt ever need an excuse to act like a nutter. My dh gave her whatever she demanded for at least 6 months and I didnt say a word, as an experiment to show dh nothing would make her stop. It didnt, she just got crazier sadly. However I dont think sms should be expected to keep quiet while being trampled over. Jimpo.

BM2 was always a pain in the ass like this... never gave a care or concern about what might be going on at our home when she would call at midnight, 10 pm... hell even once called at 4 fucking a.m. in the morning to ask DH if he would come over and sit with SS (who like 10 at the time) because BM's boyfriends dog that he kept at his mother's was sick and she wanted to be with BF. DH told her to pound salt. She called to ask DH how to fill out a job application, she called DH to ask for help in finding an apartment, she basically called, called, called, text whenever the mood struck her.

Anyway, I always stayed out of it (other than crab assing to DH about the bullshittery of the whole situation) UNTIL she called and left a message on DH cell (that he played for me) accusing me of not being sensitive to poor wittle SS fee fees because DH and I and SD went and got a Christmas tree and decorated 1/2 of it without SS. We purposely left the other half so SS could be involved, but apparently that wasn't good enough and somehow, this was all MY fault??? I asked DH if I could call her and he said sure, whatever. I did and it did not go well, it got very ugly and BM2 and I hate. loathe, despise each other to this date. (prior to that it was tolerance of each other)If I could rewind time, I would NOT have called her and had it out. I should have let DH light into her and left it at that.

Water under the bridge now, but I would never suggest that confronting a BM is a good idea. Really, no good will come of it.