just letting off steam. I have admitted to myself I wish my osd was not living in our house. She is getting under my skin more and more every day. It is the little things like I don't want a fan on the porch. I even hid them in the basement. But, osd is pretty big and she needs the fan because she is so hot. Of course she brings the fan out. Sounds so immature on my part I know. Short history we got married in our late 50's - well past the time when adult children would live with us. I really like my osd; but, she has major gambling problems and makes extremely bad choices in men. That being said, I asked her how much she has saved since she has been living with us? Her answer $200.00. I freaked! How in the hell is she going to move out if she cannot save money? Hubby tried to help her with budgeting to no avail. Now, she wants me to help her. I do not want to deal with this. She has a mother - why doesn't she help her? Is this the only way I will be able to get her out? I am too soft to put her on the street or in a shelter. I just cannot bring myself to do it. It is just she is always here. This past weekend she had plans to go away. I was on cloud nine. We can have friends over for a bbq and osd won't be here. Wrong! Her plans fell through. Granted she is a big help; but, to me it is just not worth it. Of course when we were sitting around the table after dinner, she plops herself down right next to her dad. She waits on him hand and foot. Drives me crazy. After our guest left, hubby and I sat down to discus the highlights of the party. Yup, here she comes to sit with us. Her bedroom is in the basement (almost like and apartment) As soon as she hears us; up she comes. I feel like she will be here at least another six months to a year. Am I feeling sorry for myself yes! At times I even feel what the hell jealous. Ysd lived with us when we first married. I knew that going in; I knew it would not be easy. I feel like I did not sign on for this. We have been married 7 years and in the 7 years only about 2 years have we been alone. Osd like ysd has no life of her own. Why would you want to spend all your time with your dad and his wife? For god sakes make some friends. I am so miserable most of the time. I did discuss my feelings with dh, he understands; but feels we have to deal with it until she gets on her feet. My family and friends do not understand. They have never been through this. We are enabling her I know it. I feel am trapped. I go thru the ole I probably would do the same if if was one of my bio adult kids. I feel I have lost control of my life and home. The answer is not to leave. My first marriage was awful to say the least. We love each other; have much in common and enjoy just being together. We are soulmates. I keep praying that the Lord will give me the strength to deal.