And here's why i say MIL is psycho
So due to recent events with DH and all, someone (it may have been Sweet Pea) brought up the question of if DH has been being "poisoned" again....someone in his ear. Well I decided to look and see if the psycho bitch has been calling. Apparently at some point DH blocked his mother's number, therefore she hasn't called....but oh she's left messages! The iPhone saves them under blocked messages. Listened...and it ridiculous...here is the transcription....and he wonders why I say she needs to stay the F out of our lives....
07/31 does he have a phone with him? Let me know when he comes home (after SS went there and wasn't supposed to be)
07/31 (yes there a multiple messages on multiple days) hang up
07/31 I rode by your house earlier and talked to OSS and he had come here but I was at the post office and store so he said I wasn't home, so he was here I guess he was, so bye
08/01 hi um your boys are over here. What am I supposed to do with the,? I didn't know they were coming. I don't have any food in my house so I'm, please call me back. (This was the day that OSS never came home from his bike ride...went there without telling us, that MIL called BM and had her bring YSS over there even though BM was supposed to drop off YSS at OUR home and according to both BM and MIL, BM had brought $10 when she dropped of YSS to feed them. This is after MIL and her scene on front of SSs and they were NOT to be over there anymore but went behind our back. And this was the message MIL left, even though SHE is the one who spoke with BM and made the plans for YSS to be brought there also)
08/01 OSS got his medicine (the acne medication I bitched about before), it's in his back pack make sure it comes out he took his pill already today so make sure he has it
08/02. Since my grandchildren aren't allowed to come here anymore I would appreciate it if you would return my hall tree. That's something your father bought for me and I would like to have it back. Thank you
08/08. I just wanted to tell you they moved your brother to the Alzheimer's Unit in case for some reason they need to call you. Your niece and I are heading to XYZ in the morning so talk to you later
08/10. Just wanted to call and wish you and hanging a happy anniversary. Bye
08/12. I want to see my grand kids and of not then I am going to find a way if BIL has to help me to go to court. Um, you can't do this to me. You're killing me! I love those boys and I need to have time with the right now that's all I got. Please don't be so hateful
08/19 (yes 7 days passed because skids were with BM and she gets all her contact she wants). I need to borrow $20 to go see my sin and I figure you owe me that much and I'd appreciate it. Thank you
08/23. DH, how can you just turn your back on your mother. Think of all I've done for you! Was it all in vain? You don't care about your mom? Shame on you!
08/24 DH you have got to pay me back some of the money that you, that I gave you. I can't even affords at, to put gas in my car or pay my bills and I'm not the one who got myself in this situation. You have got to help me. We are, I don't know, if I have to go to court or what but I will do whatever it takes.
08/29. I think the FOC would be very happy to hear how you are keeping your kids away from the grandma that raised them for five years, um they're going to hear about it next week! Thanks
And seriously...I'm the one with the problem and she doesn't do ANYTHING to cause issues or pike into our lives right? Makes a lot of sense regarding DH's most recent attitude, but guess what...you still allow your kids to go there and turn it on me....so DONE
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I have checked it out...but I
I have checked it out...but I don't know that I could get DH to look at it and although some of it seems true I didn't seem to be able to find things I was looking for. Course I should check again now that I have more time and a computer rather than a tablet at my use
She is just a manipulative
She is just a manipulative bitch. Period. She doesn't stop. I love all the hate and such spewed and then I need to BORROW $20 but you owe me money....so then wouldn't it be paying you back not borrowing? But then he doesn't actually owe you any money now does he? She is unfuckingbelievable and a pathological liar
I have blogged about her
I have blogged about her numerous times so a lot of the backstory is in there. But to answer a few of your ?s...
1- when BM abandoned her sons and left my husband they were four and two. DH works nights, so he would bathe them, bring them to MIL's house and put them to bed around 8:30-9:00. He would then leave and work and arrive back an 7:00 to bring them to daycare during the day (that he paid for not BM) or to school when they were school aged. DH and BM's divorce was final in January of 2006. They did try to get back together briefly...it didn't work. BM would be sporadic about her visitation time with her sons, completely depended on her current bf and how they fit in the picture. BM about five years ago started to be more involved with them and wanting to see skids. She was regularly taking them and then was fired from her job,p and evicted from her apt. MIL and BM talked DH into allowing BM to live as a "roommate" since she had started to get a relationship back with her sons until she found a place and a job. BM lived at DH's house for about 8 months. We started seeing each other right around that time. So no, MIL did not raise those kids. MIL allowed them to sleep there.
2- the money she discusses that he owes her....it's money she gave him for things for the boys she wanted them to have, or gifts she bought DH or money she spent helping him out here or there while he lived there as her child. Normal money parents spend on their kids. She purchased a vehicle for BM after the divorce because BM needed a car, (hers had been repoed) and MIL didn't want her driving her grandchildren around in a POS. MIL also spent a lot of money on a bike for BM so she could bike with the boys. MIL also helped contribute to her grand kids playing hockey (equipment they wanted etc ) if DH said no because he didn't have the extra cash. The amount she says he owes her is now up to $30,000. Last spring it was $20,000. Last fall it was $10,000. In my time with my DH (we've been together since 2011) I have only seen him "borrow" her money. When he sold his house she was in financial trouble so he gave her $1000 for some bills she hadn't paid. He cashed out a week worth of vacation to help her when she screwed up her bank account and bounced a bunch of checks. My DH certainly hasn't seemed like he's had tens of thousands of extra dollars around in the last year, nor does MIL have the financial means to give him that kind of money.
The hall tree is something DH has had in his possession for 8 years. She didn't want it, he did because of his dad (who died when DH was 17 and he was left to take care of his mother). As far as I'm converted she could have the damn thing. I don't care for it. I found a place for it in our home because it meant something to DH. She's only saying that because he has it and she's passed because we haven't been giving her full access to her grand kids. And have actually not allowed them to go there since she caused a scene right in front of them telling my DH how worthless he is, what a horrible parent he is, etc etc (also in a blog of mine). So she's just fifty shades of fucked up. I want nothing to do with her. I end up dealing with the alienation she pulls on skids. And she is constantly trying to cause drama.
DH can have a relationship with her if he chooses as long as it's you do your thing I do mine. If he doesn't want to "separate" things like that then she has no place in our lives because she is constantly trash talking DH, me and our marriage. Intentionally causing trouble.
Also she calls and wants to "borrow" money all the time. I won't have it. You don't get to treat me like shit, or my husband like shit and expect us to give you a dime when we have five kids to raise. Not happening. Mind you every time she calls, she still has wine in her fridge and a pack of smokes in her table....she an evil witch of a woman that no one should have to deal with.
Sorry...I know that sounds cold and heartless but after 3 1/2 years or so of dealing with that woman i have had enough
Dtzy, I do my best. And the
Dtzy, I do my best. And the best I can do, if DH is t going to keep his some away and keep no contact with her is keep my kids away and have nothing to do with her on my end. Which I haven't for about a year and a half now this is just the most recent example of her psychotic behavior. It's a continuous thing with her and I realized a LONG time ago to not allow her to be close to me. DH and I fight about her when she tries to get involved in our home and when she causes problems. I can't stand that woman. And her bay Ike should completely explain why she chooses to be so buddy buddy with the BM in out life.
Thanks....I have cut off
Thanks....I have cut off contact with her. Completely. DH keeps getting guilted back in. In those VMs I can't believe she didn't pull out the "what would your father do if he knew this is how you are treating me!?" That's one of her favorites! You know guilt and manipulate because DH's father died unexpectedly when DH was 17 and he was left to take care of his mother. Who has been putting hi through hell for 30 years
Damn that lady is pathetic
Damn that lady is pathetic !!!
She is the poisoned apple !!!
My FIL was a gaping asshole ~
My FIL was a gaping asshole ~ pointed it out every moment he gave me
My hubby could see if but couldn't let go of that relationship. I think it might be the "hope" that some point in life we right his wrongs.
It's warped n it happens more often that not.
I think mommy dearest ~ ride that guilt train to California n he folded. He lost his footing on the healthy life style.