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SS8 gets his way all the time

amiwise78's picture

For a while i was happy with fortnightly stayovers for SS8, but after the weekend gone, i couldnt wait for him to leave. I felt is he whinged about everything, rude to friends we visited, got grumpy if he didnt get his own way, like what takout we were having for dinner on way home, said he wasnt hungry, so didnt get anything, after offering other food over and over. Then got home and decided he wanted that for dinner and so ate his dads food. Says hes cold, so my bf puts heater up more, it was so friggen hot! the kid is in shorts and a tee, i said go and put some clothes on, i was annoyed his father didnt tell him that. Well i do pay all the bills! he wanted to only watch his movie of choice, but wouldnt sit and kept jumping around. Is this kid going to get worse, now hes clearly comfortable, as he snaps back at me if i ask a question, like im dumb. Why do i have to put up with SS8?. My guy thinks i was being petty and selfish on sat night when i just had enough and went to bed early and watched TV in my room. But end of day, its my house, he doesnt pay a cent to it, so maybe i feel like its being invaded.

just.his.wife's picture

why are you paying all the bills? Half and half... up his percentage if the kid lives there full time/ more than every other weekend.

STOP!!

You can only be taken advantage of if you allow it.

Your house.
Your rules.
Behold the door!!

And tell the bf not to let it hit him where the good lord split him!

Willow2010's picture

Why do i have to put up with SS8?.
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Because you are letting his father live with you....

fruststepmama's picture

You gotta get on the same page with DH. Talk to him in private and agree on a few discipline changes. I think you do have to let some of it go a little bit, too. I still struggle with this myself. :?

amiwise78's picture

Thanks for all your responses. Yes I most certainly need to talk to DH. (There is a long time were he had trouble with access to child and ex disappearing interstate, so watching his pain, i think i have aloud myself to be walked over on this return of child) I also have other issues to be sorted in regards to our financial future, think we are on 2 different pages with this also. Im more responsible and want a financially stable future, he is go with today kind of guy and and living with me has no responsibilities. Which i think it my fault!