am i nuts?
Hello everyone
I'm new here and am a bm and have 1sd.
I recently found out that bm asked dh to buy her beer and other groceries at a store they met up at to exchange sd.Dh apparently thought nothing of it and got her groceries. Bm "forgot" her purse. I'm so offended that dh did this. Bm cheated and got pregnant with another man's baby during their marriage. I think it is terrible boundaries and am angry at my dh. Am I nuts?
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Boundaries broken. DH might
Boundaries broken. DH might still have a thing for her. I hope I am wrong. But that is not good.
I'm so livid. He told me it
I'm so livid. He told me it wouldn't be a big deal if I would've done that for my ex. I told him bm has a husband (the one she cheated on dh with) She shouldn't be relying on dh for "rescuing" He maintains that it isn't a big deal,but I'm so hurt. I don't know what to do.
No, you're not wrong, and how
No, you're not wrong, and how can he not see that? Some things are worth a fight, and this would be one for me. When I first came into my DH's life, he had purchased a tablet for SS for Christmas, and a WiFi to go along with it. Once I pointed out to him that it's not his responsibility to provide the WiFi when SS is at BM's house, why should we have to pay for that usage? I explained to him that's like paying her electric bill. Ok, that's not even close to buying food and beer!!! But the point is, there should be a line drawn. And obviously he can't say it was for SD if there is beer involved.
Agree with Dtzy. Sadly, I
Agree with Dtzy.
Sadly, I once had an exBF ask me for money right after I dumped him.
^^^^^what she
^^^^^what she said...^^^^^^period dot^^^^^^
His "reasoning" was that they
His "reasoning" was that they met to do the exchange in the middle of nowhere with not many stores around,and she paid him back a few days later. Both Bm and Dh have summer cabins. I still maintain that he should not have rescued her and she should have driven back to her husband at her cabin and gotten her purse and her own damn groceries.I told him if he wants to remain married, he better get better boundaries and right now! I'm so mad and he is acting like i am unreasonable
Ummmmmm....BTW....what woman
Ummmmmm....BTW....what woman goes off anywhere without her purse?? She was lying. It wasn't about not having money, it was about getting her exH to do her bidding for her again. It was about the power trip of knowing she could manipulate her exH.
This had nothing to do with groceries, forgotten handbags or money. It's all about control and that's it.