Pregnancy and Parenting...
So wow... I never thought that prenancy could be such a total life makeover. I knew being a new mom would be difficult and trying but I say again wow. I have no urge to do anything other then eat and sleep. If I try to do anything else I generally feel nauseus enough to merit laying down and going to sleep. So heres my issue.
We are getting my SD on the 20th of Dec for two weeks.
Problem #1
We have to drive 3 hours one way to pick her up. I can't seem to go one hour without being in the washroom at least once.
Problem #2
Once we get her I'm on my own to care for her (shes 3 1/2) for the first week. That means everything, and shes not potty trained. I can't imagine what whiping a 3 1/2 year olds ass is going to do to my sensitive nose and stomache. I smell french fries right now and feel like I'm going to hurl.
Problem #3
I can't get my fiance to help out enough around the house now. When its just me and him to clean up after. So we're going to add some pee pants and half eaten meals into the mix?
Problem #4
I have no energy to entertain her and I'm terrified of doing anything that would put the baby at risk. (This is just pregnancy dementia I know but its a serious issue in my head)
Oh well at least theres only 4 weeks left to this first trimester.
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Can I borrow Boo for 2
Can I borrow Boo for 2 weeks?? lol
1. My fiance likes me to go with him incase BM pulls something dumb. She has been known to take a nice conversation and switch it into a battle that he doesn't even know he's in.
2. I believe something happened to SD. She was happily potty trained last Jan but when her mom and boyfriend broke up all hell let loose. She refuses to even sit on the potty for us now. She just says no, and if we try to force her its a huge blow out fight. (Which I have never done but DH gets really frustrated sometimes)
3. SD has a "I'm three years old and you can't tell me what to do" attitude. She has literally said this to me.
Idk... I hate how I was never even consulted about this. I was just told that SD was going to be with us at those times. I know I am expected to be over joyed that we even have this time with her but I cant be when I see the little girl that I used to love has turned into a monster in the last three months because BM won the right to take her away.
Oh Thetis, it's so good to
Oh Thetis, it's so good to hear from you!!
I remember feeling the same way during my pregnancies. It was worse with my daughter, I was nauseous (sp?) ALL.THE.TIME! I kept saltines and sprite around alot. I've also read that you should try eating a saltine or two and drinking some kind of juice in the morning before getting out of bed.
I know it's hard, but sometimes when you dont have a choice, you don't realize how much strength you have. I had to push myself, but nobody else was going to take care of things but myself. I had two choices...A) Feel sorry for myself which wasn't going to solve my problem or
Talk myself into feeling empowered and knowing I was a strong woman in order to get things that needed to be done, done.
As for problem #1, can't DH just pick her up himself so you don't have to ride in a car that long?
(((HUGS)) honey, I'm so glad to hear from you. PM me if you get a chance, let me know how other things are going!
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3 hours is the half way
3 hours is the half way mark. When BM decided to move she made it a big one. (I hate her for it... its the whole reason we had to go to court... just so she could chase dick and work at a pet store)
I used to love my SD, but now shes a monster. I have no idea what they're telling her over there but she wont even sit on the potty for us. And we bribe her!!! We have candy necklaces, Dora movies, computer games and a billion other things that she gets when she uses the potty but she still doesn't, then throws a fit about not getting the reward.
Any ability to put her in
Any ability to put her in Part time day care? Or an in home child care? Not sure but it is up to FH to think of arrangements for SD and take the fact that you are creating human life into consideration. Sorry to sound harsh, I just dont think men always get how difficult it is. We are not faking how tired we are, how much our feet hurt or how the smell of scrambled eggs can ruin the day. Sorry didnt mean to overtake your vent!
My town is really tiny and
My town is really tiny and to put her in daycare for a week is pretty much impossible. We are not talking to his crazy family right now so they're not an option and well my mom is too busy taking care of me to worry about SD. (Although I'm sure I'll be dropped as soon as SD shows up as always lol)
And don't worry about ranting. Anyones experience on this subject is more then wanted... its craved lol
You are too cute. Just
You are too cute. Just remember from those of us that have done this a few times...enjoy every second. Although you may not think so now, you WILL look back at this time a miss it. There is such a special connection that only you get to have when that beautiful miracle is in your tummy!