Today I was thinking about how everyone's life would be so much better if DH would have just signed over his rights during the divorce.
I know that's a horrible way to think...but...
BM left just 6 wks after SS was born. Due to the court system and all BM's lies that had to be sloshed through, DH didn't even end up seeing SS until he was more than 18 months old.
She had only been home for two weeks before she left because after the baby was born she insisted on staying with her mother. He'd only had two weeks with the baby, during which time he held him probably a grand total of thirty minutes because BM wouldn't have it.
He ended up having to let her keep everything, fine china, furniture, his family heirlooms, in order to be able to negotiate and be allowed to see his son because of course it's the "right" thing to do...
Right?? I'm not sure if I agree with that.
Anyway, now it's child support and putting up with her crap and outrageous health insurance, and expensive bimonthly trips for visitation, and DH's inner turmoil and sadness over not seeing his son as often as he'd like, or having the relationship with him he wants. he's so sad all the time, especially after a visit when SS9 has to go home. SS9 doesn't even treat him like family. he's rude, inconsiderate, lazy, and mean to his little brother BS3, among many other things. He doesn't like me, and unfortunately I have to say the feeling is mutual.
Sometimes I feel stuck.