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lmao I'm having too much fun.

nikki_01's picture

So with this being one of the last 2 days before I leave, something inside of me is following through with an "eff this, eff that" attitude Smile

DH works all day daily so while I'm stuck here with stepbrat I've just been letting her do whatever. She was getting mouthy with me telling me she wasn't going to eat what I made so I said "well then looks like you don't eat at all." So she dips into DH's snacks and sweets for his lunches and ate that...I didn't stop her lol. Then when he got home he was tired and asked me "can you go make her something" (because she was whining about how "hungwy" she was the second he got in)

I just said "No I'm not making anything you can go do it".

....and he did.

I told her not to play on the chairs with wheels we have before repeatedly, but of course she continues to do it and smashed her finger. Started bawling and I just said "well maybe now you learned your lesson. I told you more than 3 times not to play with them." and then I just ignored her crying. (She was doing it to make a scene because she'd stop and play with her doll or watch tv and then go back to bawling for dudddeeeeee)

And I took a bath yesterday and locked the door, came out and there was wax all over the mirror in the bedroom from her rubbing a candle on it. I didn't even bother cleaning it up. DH saw it when he layed down and goes "what is that??" and I just said "idk" and he got mad saying "what do you mean you don't know? Do you not watch her? I suppose you were sleeping when that happened??" and I just said "why don't you ask the person who did it what it is, make them clean it up and tell them not to do it again. That's normally what parents do."

....and he did.

Plus for some reason he asked me "you get up when she gets up in the morning right?" and all I said was "I get up whenever I please and so does she. She's not a baby. If she needs me for something important she'll come get me."

...no response.

And before he left this morning and I was having my breakfast he said "well, at least I won't be completely bored once you leave because she'll still be here for the rest of the summer" and then in his stupid ass baby talk voice to SD he says "Mummyboo is going to be leaving us in 2 sleeps. Hers is going back to her family far aways. So it's just going to be me and you for the rest of the summers. That's no fun hey."

and I said "well what does it matter, you're gone all day everyday anyways and by the time you get home you go to bed again. It's not like she's having fun anyways."

It's gonna be fun to see what he ends up doing. No more free babysitter. No maid. No one to cook. I shouldn't be having this much fun watching him be stuck like a lost puppy...

...but I am. Smile

Haven't been bothering doing anything for anyone but myself. I'm just going to lay here and relax for the next 36 hours Smile

Why didn't I book this flight earlier?? Biggrin Dirol

And which one of you has been slipping me some courage pills???????

I'm usually bad at speaking up and putting my foot down when I get annoyed or mad haha and it's like I just woke up the other day in a "Not putting up with anyone's B******t" mindset. Dirol

nikki_01's picture

lmao I honestly can't stand baby talk, it's been proven that it can lead to speech impediments and delayed language development so now she's going to start school sounding so illiterate.. I don't even baby talk to babies...change the tone of my voice sure, but saying "hers grandma" and adding unnecessary letters and pronunciations...truly setting a kid up to look dumb haha. She can't speak properly as it is but he never even corrects her. And I'm putting and end to this "mummyboo, daddyboo, babyboo" bulls*** too. That's the most immature thing I've ever heard. 5 years old or not, I'm not having it. lol it'll be something her peers and teachers will be looking at her funny for too the first time she brings up "daddyboo".

nikki_01's picture

Aww...sad to say your 8 month old is probably on a road to being wiser than your SD lol

I feel like ILs and I are the only ones that are actually speak to her properly. I don't expect her to speak like a grown adult but there's a difference between speaking like a human being vs. speaking like a complete moron. PLUS on top of it she whines or uses a baby voice.

I don't find it cute at all, but I haven't figured out how to tell her to talk normal or stop using baby voice. I feel like the "talk like a big girl" "stop acting/talking like a baby" "use your big girl voice" reminders work pretty well...but then DH comes home and ruins it. As much as she annoys me, she's actually pretty tolerable until he gets around, surprisingly.

I'm probably going to point out AGAIN that he needs to quit babying her so much due to the fact she was using the remote to change the tv (she knows how) and the channel she flipped it to didn't work, she ran to me BAWLING, tears and all whining about how the channel she turned it to didn't work...

...Seriously? Flip it to another channel. If it doesn't work it doesn't work. No need for full out bawling about every effing thing. If she can't even be independent enough to press an up or down button on a remote without me or duddeeee guiding her through it, how is she going to ever learn to do anything for herself? The girl can't even put her shoes on the right feet for heavens sake. Or get herself a cup of water. Or brush her teeth. Nothing unless duddeeee does it for her or sits with her while she does it. It's just so ridiculous, that's why when I CHOSE to associate with her, I make her dress herself. I make her get her own food/ water. I make her do her own ponytail. The girl has gotta learn to do stuff on her own at some point. I try not to expect too much out of her but at the same time I've seen other 5 year olds much more independent and mature, so what's her excuse? There shouldn't be one. I'm telling you, I seriously fear for her getting picked on or having a rough time in kindergarten this fall.

zerostepdrama's picture

My co worker who is normally debbie downer/negative nancy once pulled out this picture of her son when he was a baby and said "awww hims so cute" in this weird baby voice. I was like WTF?

Hims? Is that even a word?

Hims so cute?

nikki_01's picture

LMAO I hate the hims/hers talk. That's not even proper English for an adult, why would you teach a kid to speak that way. xDD

tessa12's picture

Nikki, I'm so glad you posted! I've been thinking about you.

Wait, but he's not devastated he's missing his son's birth?! You're going to deliver the baby alone in your folks' town? Do you have a doctor already lined up?

But seriously, he creeps me out how he speaks about his daughter -- on Facebook, to her...it's so childlike and immature. It actually really upsets me!

counseling.advocate's picture

I'm so excited for you as well. You have to update us this weekend too and let us know how the final goodbye goes...
Ugh I can't believe he's still doing all that baby talk and crap you've been telling us even though he knows this is part of what is destroying your marriage. His disgusting relationship with his BD and lack of awareness/sense of reality for the baby... He needs to cut that shit out. It's clear what his priorities are, or he's just plain stupid.

nikki_01's picture

Well we've pretty much had our final goodbye. I leave tomorrow morning and he's working all day, so by the time he gets home I most likely will be asleep.

Oh yeah, in response to Tessa12, he's coming down the week of my due date or scheduled c-section and for 1 week each month after that. He wants to be there, he just knows that I don't want to be here and having to take care of his kid all day everyday when he's not even here lol.

But he hasn't really said much/ done much besides update his life all over Facebook like usual, "any responsible and reliable friends or fam that could watch my daughter while I work during the day? if so IBM. don't wanna lose both my girls Sad " :sick: and posting to tell me "Enjoy what little time you have left with babygirl :("

...(lol I plan to just let her sleep in and then stick her in front of the tv all day so I can finish some last minute packing, why should I go out of my way to make today special, I'm ready to get the hell out haha)

But I guess since I'm leaving for so long, she's going back to BM for the school year. (good). So he was complaining about how he'd have to find a baby sitter until the end of August, found one (pretty sure she's a high schooler) and she was asking him what kinds of activities and food she likes. Of course he says "well that's good at least I know she'll have fun with the babysitter, she's really active and likes kids." I got pissy and said "yeah that's good, find a young healthy sitter that will enjoy staying busy and entertaining all day everyday and won't get worn out." Because that is not my job Wink

Mmm. It's going to feel good to go home and lay by the pool and be able to rest when I want and go baby shopping and eat what I want...GOD. I feel like I'm going on a vacation, at least until DS arrives. haha

Although my friend did point out something, if SD is going back to BM for the school year, yes it will be nice to return and have it just be us 3, but how is his behavior going to change if she's not even really going to see him after September? (They don't do weekend visits much because BM lives 3.5 hours away).

Frick, good thing I'm spending my Christmas back home too lol

SMof2Girls's picture

I think I've missed previous posts.

Where is "home" that you're going to? You already have a place to live there? Do you have a job?

I'm happy for you that you're happy .. just unclear on how this is all working out.

Good luck and safe travels tomorrow!

nikki_01's picture

My parents want me to come stay at their home in the states Smile They just want dibs on the baby his first few months haha but if they're offering the free space, I won't turn em down Smile Haven't seen any of my family in a looooong time. It's going to be nice!

luchay's picture

And before he left this morning and I was having my breakfast he said "well, at least I won't be completely bored once you leave because she'll still be here for the rest of the summer" and then in his stupid ass baby talk voice to SD he says "Mummyboo is going to be leaving us in 2 sleeps. Hers is going back to her family far aways. So it's just going to be me and you for the rest of the summers. That's no fun hey."

What.The.Fuck.

How old is this kid again? Sorry didn't read all responses but seriously? I think I stopped babytalking when they got to about 8 months!!!! LOL

Stay strong. As long as she is safe from harm that is all you are required to do until you leave.

I hope "daddykins" gets his shit together while you are away.

Enjoy your time with your family, and your new baby - will he come for the birth?

nikki_01's picture

Stepbrat is 5. But I would find the way he speaks to her inappropriate for any age lol

And yep, all set to go in another 6 hours Smile

He'll try to be there for the birth (predicting my labor is hard to do, throw in him trying to catch a last minute flight and I just foresee madness, unless my doctor follows through with scheduling a c-section)

I'm kinda mad he didn't even put in any effort to spend any last-minute alone time with me but whatever.

What's done is done Smile ugh, I'm literally itching to be on that plane as we speak!

AllySkoo's picture

YAY! I am SO glad you're going on "vacation" back home! Smile You seriously need that time before your son arrives.

On a side note, the baby talk is completely gross. And also it's going to set up a very weird dynamic for your son. Either DH is going to baby talk him as well, which gets into almost pedophile levels of grossness, or he's going to speak normally - which will result in an "us - vs- them" feeling between your DH and SD, and you and your BS. Ick. Your DH is an idiot. Hopefully he realizes how stupid and inappropriate he's being, but I'm not holding my breath....