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Had dinner with the skid.

Shaman29's picture

Skid has been having a rough time dealing with post-HS reality. H called and asked if I would mind meeting her for dinner to see if there was anything I could do for her.

I offered to meet her halfway, but she said she'd drive to my city. I arrived a little early to the restaurant, knowing that she has a habit of showing up late whenever she's met her dad and I in the past. The owner of the restaurant knows H and I, so she came over to chat with me. We were in the middle of the conversation when skid showed up. Five minutes early. Shocked the hell out of me.

During the course of the meal, skid completely opened up to me. Talking about her fears, her new BF, her money worries, her GBM (who recently fractured her pelvis and is now back home), the way her BFF is leaving her in the cold about their plans to get a place together and generally all things that freak out an 18 y/o after HS.

She was so open to listening to me, I didn't lecture or judge her and was able to give her some sound advice regarding finding a place to live now, how her experience with her current job is opening up a door for a second part time job and her plans for school.

She seemed much more relaxed after the meal and even offered to pay for her half (I declined). We made plans to see each other in about a month or so.

This was the first time she and I spent time alone together in years. It's nice to see a turn around like this as I never thought we'd get along without her dad around. It seems we gel more when it's just the two of us.

I can safely say, even after all the horrible years, there is hope!!

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DaizyDuke's picture

That's awesome! I used to get along with SD when she was younger, but things changed when she became a teenager. I wish we could get along, I wish we could go for pedicures, go out to lunch, go to the movies but right now, she is just not someone that I would ever choose to spend my precious free time with.

It's nice to know that there is hope for change.

Shaman29's picture

Oh Daizy....I understand what you're going through right now. The only difference is I have no bios at all.

It's been a very long and painful road. Had you told me a year ago I would willingly have dinner with skid, alone, I would have laughed you out of the room.

I truly hope someday you can get some of that back and have a better relationship. Ours isn't awesome, but maybe there is a flicker that we can have a real relationship after all. Smile

Shaman29's picture

I'm just so surprised by the fact she's still interested in a relationship with me. When I disengaged I thought for sure she wouldn't have anything to do with me once she turned 18.