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crazy ex wifes/BM that don't understand their place being an ex!

KB14's picture

So this morning at 6:30 am my fiance's obnoxious ex wife who is a GIGANTIC c**t called my house, i was asleep it woke me up, who the f@(k calls that early in the morning for a non emergency????? She was so rude, demanded i wake him up and put him on the phone, so i said nope, and hung up on the bitch. Him and i have been togetbrr for 4 years just about now and have a child, this idiot still thinks she can call him when ever she wants to have him do what ever at the drop of a hat...... im like hello, stupid girl, he has a family now, he is not here for your convience. She holds his absolutely terrible kids against him, no skin off my ass really, theyre aweful and i really cant stand them. But does anyone else have problems with stupid ass ex who just doesnt go away? Shes tried everything under the sun to try and get to me, calls, texts, tells the kids things, called DCF on me ( before ieven had kids) called my jobs to try and get my fired, shes a stupid ass bitch. Any ideas, or tips to get my point across that her presence and her lack of communication and wanting.him to do last minute things and never calling ahead of time to ask him to do things is no longer goingto happen. She like expects him to drop what he is doing to.do what she wants. Look bitch he has a family, you and your kids really arnt apart of it since theyre here for a whopping 4 days a month... ugh. Lol thanks in advance (-:

KB14's picture

I have said multiple things, and i was so mad i followed her one time and i was most likely going to hit her, i clearly was thinkong irrationality, she drove to the court house. Just last week my other half asked me to pick up the kids from camp, because it was his weekend, so i did. This psycho called the police... wtf? I dont get it. This chick is so stupid.

Orange County Ca's picture

Block her from all phones except his.

I don't understand why people keep phones in their bedrooms then complain when someone wakes them up. If someone has a true emergency that requires that you be awoken they can send a cab over or the police will perform that service in a true emergency.

Get rid of your electronics and get some rest.

Easylikesundaymornin's picture

You just set a prescedent now ~ stay consistent ! Set up a new trend ~ after awhile she'll get it.

Oldmom's picture

True story.... Once so long ago the thing called my house at 3AM. She thought husband was working swing shift.

I answered and she demanded to speak to him. I simply told her he couldn't talk cause his mouth was busy in my crotch..ohh ahhh....click

Never called in the middle of the night again

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Agree with blocking her. BioMonster wanted my phone number and DH told her no. Then again, I told DH if he gave her my phone number, I would change it asap...

QueenBeau's picture

I second this. BM wanted my #, DH told her no repeatedly. I finally (I was dumb, before finding this site) said sure let her have it. It took her about 6 months before I was like "Yeah you're a psycho" & blocked her from texting. Then another 3 or so months I blocked her from calling. LOL

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Haha! I already have BM's number blocked. The skids have my phone number, but they only text. If BM ever tries calling with one of their phones, their numbers will be blocked, too.

misSTEP's picture

Your DH is the one who really needs to put a stop to this and set strong boundaries with BM.

After repeated harassing, my DH went to court and got a No Contact order put into the CO. She was only allowed to contact him via mail or by phone in case of emergencies only or last minute schedule changes. It really allowed us to live our lives a lot more relaxed.

And guess what? The skids didn't die from it even though you would have thought so from BM's reaction to us asking for that clause!

SMof2Girls's picture

Stop talking to her at all. Block her number on your personal phone. Get caller ID on your home phone and don't answer when she calls. Don't read her emails, Facebook messages, texts, etc.

Cut her off.

And if she continues to try and contact you, call the police and get a No Contact Order. Press charges for harassment.

Every time you engage her, you give her steam to continue doing what she's doing. You don't have any kids with her. You have no reason to communicate with her.

OrangeUGlad's picture

IMO, your problem is not with bm, but with fdh. She is asking because he has been doing.

You need to tell him what you are comfortable with and work it out with him. She can ask all she wants. Once he stops doing what she asks, then she will stop asking.

When I met dh, he was doing things like taking out bm's trash, cleaning her pool, running errands for her so she didn't have to go out in the snow, picking up prescriptions for her medications and dropping them off, taking her car to get serviced, giving her rides to the doctor, changing light bulbs, etc. She had him guilted into doing these things because whatever he did to help her, indirectly benefited sd.

And at the same time... calling him a dead beat (who has his child more than half the time), bad mouthing us around town, etc.

Um, no.

Yes, there are times he will have parental responsibilities during her custody time, but he is not her servant and when we got together it had been 3 years since their divorce, so she had plenty of time to develop a new support system.

The two of them had an unhealthy dependency.

I didn't forbid him from doing these things, but did help him see that he was not obliged to do these things. If you want to do those things, go ahead, but don't then bitch to me about it because it was your choice to do it. I also set boundaries for what *I* would do and made my expectations of him clear. The favors to her did end and she wasn't happy, but it all came from dh, not me.