disengaging all the way

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with dh as well as the skids

in another thread you know why i am still in the marrieage. long story. but skids ruined the marriage since day one.

dh refused to parent due to disney dad issues so they walked all over him and he refused to defend me. two mini wifes were the result. i had therefore to defend myself making me the bad guy.

he refused to reprimand when they called him names to his face. when sd was going on a short holiday she smugly said "i think he can survive without me fine."

every issue was indulged. on the other hand with me he will pick from housecleaning and anything else like he was my boss.

why does divorce make men cowards to the bm and skids and mean to the sm?

so i am disengaging all the way. i already feel much better.

I think they are trying to

I think they are trying to redefine their manhood since the BM & kids have the genitals. They try and be big macho man n treat the wrong people with anger n disrespect.

A sort of deflection if you will.

I've experienced the same.

I've experienced the same. Kids are perfect in father's eyes, even after mouthing off or bragging about disrespecting teachers, etc.

No matter what I say, I'm the baddie. Ref. my 'eff off Friday' post from today.

I guess it's best to say nothing. But the father (my partner) is sensitive to me disengaging. E.g. expects me to be ok with making SS17's lunch every night while SS17 mopes around and plays video games; if I refuse, the father gets hurt and angry. I don't get it. Am I being petty or something?

I tried to preface my disengagement from the skids by warning father that i'd be going to the gym in the evening starting next week. That did not go over well.

How disengage when doing so makes husband so unhappy? Seems to cause more problems ..